Lishy Posted January 7, 2006 Posted January 7, 2006 Can I ask how you do No Contact with a guy who drives past your house, it doesn't help you get over them if you see them but dont speak to them! Its like no contact with contact! Other then boarding up my windows I cant do a thing about it.
johan Posted January 7, 2006 Posted January 7, 2006 I'd have no idea if someone was driving past my house. My ex could be doing laps around my neighborhood all day and I'd have no idea. I'm not sure I consider wierd drive-by behavior to be "contact". I think you're still on the "no contact" side of the line.
riobikini Posted January 7, 2006 Posted January 7, 2006 Lishy, This guy KNOWS that he's driving you insane. That's parts of why he smiles so broadly as he passes your house. No doubt he's salivating ten blocks down the road before he ever gets near your house thinking about how it teases you. Two minutes from your house, he's grinning from ear to ear, heart pounding with mischievous excitement, wondering if you're going to be on that balcony. His eyes are zeroed in on the balcony as soon as your street comes into focus and they scan feverishly for you, his small, prick of a heart still pounding. (He is such a child.) He does this, -not because he is in love or lust, -but because of the same reason a dog licks his balls, dear : because he can. It gives him pleasure. It's his personal little 'high' for the day. Proof enough, already, that he is petty. You are not his Juliet. He is not your Romeo. Your balcony is YOUR balcony and not HIS theatre. So don't entertain him. (Smile) Take care. -Rio 2
Art_Critic Posted January 7, 2006 Posted January 7, 2006 No doubt he's salivating ten blocks down the road before he ever gets near your house thinking about how it teases you. ..... Salivating
slubberdegullion Posted January 7, 2006 Posted January 7, 2006 I still think you should lob a bad egg at his windshield. 1
MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 Posted January 7, 2006 Posted January 7, 2006 I know it's drastic, but can you move? how about a suite on the other side of the building?
Author Lishy Posted January 7, 2006 Author Posted January 7, 2006 I am Laughing my ass off at you guys! Rio you are so right honey and I will just smile and wave back (Flipping the bird would let him know it works) MWC I wont be moving hon I love my place I have spent ages getting it just so and no guy would ever make me move!
loony Posted January 7, 2006 Posted January 7, 2006 Why do you look out at your window all the time? Next time he drives by your house remind yourself that it's you who is in power, because it's him who is making a fool out of himself by driving constantly by your house. It's ridiculous what he is doing, so remind yourself of this and it might help.
Neptune Posted January 7, 2006 Posted January 7, 2006 He probably drives by then logs on to LS to see if he got you in a hissy fit for the day:laugh:
Author Lishy Posted January 7, 2006 Author Posted January 7, 2006 Looney I dont look out of my window hardly at all - I go out to have a cigarette on my balcony a few times a day and it seems that I cant do this without him going past! I live here!
Author Lishy Posted January 7, 2006 Author Posted January 7, 2006 He probably drives by then logs on to LS to see if he got you in a hissy fit for the day:laugh: LMAO :lmao:
whichwayisup Posted January 7, 2006 Posted January 7, 2006 Looney I dont look out of my window hardly at all - I go out to have a cigarette on my balcony a few times a day and it seems that I cant do this without him going past! I live here! When you go out for that smoke on the balcony DO NOT LOOK towards the street...Even if you are tempted. Face the other way. It's the only way you can do NC. Out of sight, out of mind...
alphamale Posted January 7, 2006 Posted January 7, 2006 Its like no contact with contact! NC is defined as as not talking to or seeing one's person. Since he is driving by in a car you really are not seeing his person or communicating with him in any way. So you are still in NC with him. Now... if as he drives by and you make eye contact with him and wave at him then NC is broken.
Author Lishy Posted January 7, 2006 Author Posted January 7, 2006 Alphaaaaaa I am choking here You answered a question! WOW You are a changed man
whichwayisup Posted January 7, 2006 Posted January 7, 2006 NC is defined as as not talking to or seeing one's person. Since he is driving by in a car you really are not seeing his person or communicating with him in any way. So you are still in NC with him. Now... if as he drives by and you make eye contact with him and wave at him then NC is broken. No, NC is broken against her will as he keeps on driving by so she will see him, so therefore verbal NC is still happening, it's the VISUAL NC that is still at stake. Which is why I suggest facing the other way so you don't see his car driving by...By looking, you're reacting...Which makes you think...Which makes you feel...Not good.
riobikini Posted January 7, 2006 Posted January 7, 2006 RE: Alphaaaaaa I am choking here You answered a question! WOW You are a changed man Wonderful....amazing....talented.....surprising.....men. No wonder we love them. (Smile) -Rio
ashley83 Posted January 7, 2006 Posted January 7, 2006 He keeps driving by your house??? What a loser!! lol
J dub Posted January 7, 2006 Posted January 7, 2006 Lishy, do you have any male friends that could accompany you on your smoke breaks for a couple days? Perhaps a cute neighbor? That should give him a stab of annoyance if anything else. Rio, I can tell you watch Sex & the City, the episode last night was one where samantha says, "Honey men cheat for the same reason dogs lick their balls, because THEY CAN" :lmao:
riobikini Posted January 8, 2006 Posted January 8, 2006 J Dub, I never rarely watch tv but wish I could have seen that episode. The saying is one I've heard for many years....refuse to say how many years ,(smile), -it would be giving away my age. -Rio
Recommended Posts