The omniscient Posted October 20, 2024 Posted October 20, 2024 (edited) I'm 17yo and I met this guys on a game, he is 15yo. I only thought of him as a friend but the more we talk the more I start to like him, for context we talk online because we live in different countries . He is so mature for his age, even his voice decieves me into thinking he is older (his voice is super deep) , caring, we have similar interests and trauma, he is respectful, and gets me in every way. Usually I like older guys (same age or 1-2 age gap) but now that I'm certain that I like him, it feels wrong to date a 15yo boy... And he has been giving me signs. That means he likes me too but idk what to do... And the thought of it being a 18yo to a 16yo by next year makes it sound even more wrong... Edited October 20, 2024 by The omniscient Grammar
basil67 Posted October 20, 2024 Posted October 20, 2024 Trust your gut. Also given your location difference, I suggest you don't lead him on into thinking that this can become a relationship. 1
Sony12 Posted October 20, 2024 Posted October 20, 2024 (edited) Yes and people (both men and women are dating younger all the time). However with that said the older you get the less of a difference there is. You are only 17 so you dating someone two years younger would be like an adult dating someone ten or more years younger. You will probably find that you will enjoy dating younger men more once you get older but at least get to know the guy in question to see how much you two have in common. And it would be difficult for you to ever meet due to the distance because of how young you are. Edited October 20, 2024 by Sony12 1
ExpatInItaly Posted October 20, 2024 Posted October 20, 2024 (edited) 5 hours ago, The omniscient said: it feels wrong to date a 15yo boy. How can you date him if you live in different countries, though? Worrying about dating him is rather moot, based on geography alone. Now on to your main question: 2 years is not a lot in the grand scheme of things, but at this age, it is more significant. I would stick to boys your own age for now. I would be kind and make sure you are clear with this boy that you two are online friends only. Edited October 20, 2024 by ExpatInItaly 1
Gaeta Posted October 20, 2024 Posted October 20, 2024 How do you know he is not a 45 year old man? These games are known for having grown men pretending to be minors. In most countries, when you'll turn 18 it would be illegal to date him. I know he comes across as nice but 15 yo boys are really immature and unreliable. It's normal they are still *kids*. In terms of maturity women are 3 years ahead their age, men 3 years behind. This maturity gap disappears around 30. Nature made it that way for women's survival. This way, at a young age, a woman picking an older mate, had better chances of survival. You need to go out and meet someone locally. You will waste your time, feelings, energy, on someone too young, too far. 1
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