Sami_D Posted January 13, 2006 Posted January 13, 2006 my point is, stay strong. start a diary. thats what i did. when you read it , you will start to realise that you are basically repeating yourself and unless the circumstances change .... there can never be a good ending for the story and you will slowly start to let go. it is tough but hang in there... Congratulations on your course of action. And that is a great piece of advice... keeping a diary. I'm often disgusted when I look back over my diaries and see that I'm doing and thinking the same things over and over... and making myself promises that I don't keep! It's such a wake-up call.
Sami_D Posted January 13, 2006 Posted January 13, 2006 "Another thing that I don't recall reading anywhere here, is my MM is very jealous of my past relationships and current contact with any man. He feels like I truly belong to him....and he is quiet possesive. That behavior in itself, makes me think that he could never be without me. Anyone have thoughts on that?" I would dump this man based on the jealousy and possessiveness alone. Don't let a man control you. YOU be the one in control, YOU call the shots. TRUST ME I would be wary of someone who couldn't keep their jealousy under control. Of course a certain amount of jealousy isn't a bad thing, as long as no one is attempting to change anyone's behaviour by using it. In this case, if InApickle's MM is mentioning it to the extent that she's bringing it up, it could be a cause for concern. Because he's in NO position to give speeches about her being with someone else. But it could be that InApickle is picking up on little things said in a positive way. How does it seem, InApickle..? Does he actually seem possessive in a way that makes you feel uncomfortable..?
Dolphin88 Posted January 13, 2006 Posted January 13, 2006 "Another thing that I don't recall reading anywhere here, is my MM is very jealous of my past relationships and current contact with any man. He feels like I truly belong to him....and he is quiet possesive. That behavior in itself, makes me think that he could never be without me. Anyone have thoughts on that? " I would take this pretty seriously. Being very jealous is one thing if you are in a committed, exclusive relationship with the person (and it could still be a red flag), but in this case where the jealous person is married to someone else - well, for me that would be a huge red flag. I guess I'd look at this person closely and see if there are more things that give you pause - it's hard to do that (and to just get to know the person fully) when you're undertandably so focused on the other stuff.
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