TheRock Posted January 6, 2006 Posted January 6, 2006 I've been dating Lisa for about a month and a half. Things are moving along. We talk 1-2 times\week by phone and email\IM\text message in between. Things went well until yesterday. She called me in the AM. I missed the call and emailed her later. We e-mailed back and forth a few times and she busted my balls a little. We decided to go out tomorrow night. I told her I had a few ideas of what we could do. She asked what? and I joked saying, "Play naked twister...No...someone could get hurt...then it'd be tough trying to explain it..." I then gave her a few "realistic" ideas...Dinner, Comedy show, concert, etc. Said I'd call her last night and we could discuss it then. I did and got her voicemail. PROBLEM...I haven't heard from her since...No e-mail, no phone. I would usually hear from her by email, phone or text message by now. Don't know if I crossed the line with the joke. Maybe she didn't take it as a joke, as we haven't had sex yet, just heavy kissing and feeling... I don't want to call and apologize like a wuss or seem desparate and don't want her to think I Just want to have sex with her. I like her and think she could be "The One". What should I do?
Art_Critic Posted January 6, 2006 Posted January 6, 2006 I like her and think she could be "The One". First off.. after only 6 weeks you cannot possibly know that she is "the one" "The one" takes that same feeling on both sides to become a reality.. I don't think you crossed the line but only she can really answer that.. I think you need to give her some space and backup so you don't come across needy ( which it sounds like you are ). She may have something going on that you don't know about.. After a day or 2 give her a call... but if she fails to return your calls then consider it over.. the joke wasn't over the top but maybe it was enough to show her that the relationship was going a direction that she didn't want it to. Good Luck..
travellingman Posted January 6, 2006 Posted January 6, 2006 My rule is I never initiate sex talk unless we're already having it. Better to let them bring it up first, because as a guy, I'm usually thinking about it while they're thinking of how nice and romantic dinner will be. Saying the wrong thing too soon disrupts what should be a steady buildup of sexual tension. But what you said, while inappropriate, should not be a deal breaker either. More like something that would be a problem if you did it 3-4 times. If she doesn't call you back at all, something else must have happened. And I also don't buy this knowing she's "the one" thing so soon. Sounds like you are infatuated, and you're creating someone in your mind who actually doesn't exist. Next time you feel the urge to say something sexual, tell her you'll call her back, and go jack off. Then when you get back to her, you'll probably want to start talking about whether the Yankees' rotation will get them into the World Series. Women are much more sensitive about this stuff (sex, not baseball) than guys, you really need to make sure you don't jump the gun again with a dumb comment.
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