mopar crazy Posted January 5, 2006 Posted January 5, 2006 My daughter is 10.5. In fourth grade she met a new friend in her class. She spent a lot of time with her in school, going to her house, and coming to our house. Dd is in 5th grade now but she is no longer in this girls class but she is in her sister's class. Her friend was held back a year that is why they are in the same class. Anyhow, so my daughter has become good friends with her sister also. My daughter has gone over to their house quiet a few times and the girls have been to mine but never together as one has had plans w/ another friend. The last time my daughter spent the night there the girl's mom told me they fought the whole time b/c they were fighting over my daughter. Mom wasn't too happy. My question is, what do I do about this? I want the chance to let the girls come out and spend time with my daughter at our house but I don't want to deal w/ their fighting between the two of them b/c they are fighting over my daughter's attention. I was told (from other ppl) that if I invite one girl, I should invite both or I shouldn't invite either one of them. I don't want to deal w/ the girls fighting over my daughter like their mom had to. The difference is, it is HER daughters fighting over my daughter. I shouldn't have to deal w/ their fighting when I have them come over. I honestly wish she wasn't such good friends w/ both of them. Anyone dealt w/ this w/ their own children and friendships between siblings?
Roo-bie2 Posted January 6, 2006 Posted January 6, 2006 Your dd can be friends to both of these girls. You are no way obligated to invite both over. I have actually found that play goes better with just one guest per child. YOu need to get your dd some power here. Next time they start fighting she needs to look at them and say "If you two are not going to fight and compromise then I am leaving." Then let her leave or make them leave. When they are at your house, think structured activities.
brashgal Posted January 6, 2006 Posted January 6, 2006 Oh what the heck, invite one more girl and then they can pair off against each other.
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