itwontdawnsooner Posted January 4, 2006 Posted January 4, 2006 wondering what everyones opinion on this is: my gf of about a year alludes very often to getting married and seems very sure about it. i, on the other hand, dont think im ready for that. we're both in our 20s, her early, me middle, but i just feel like im not ready for that concept in general. im not "looking elsewhere" or anything. im not so sure that you "just know" , i have severla friends who said they didnt "just know" and some who did right away when they met their wife - i feel like im too young for that and want to enjoy spending time with her now. is it do or break? what do yout hink? ive made it clear what i feel but its brought up often enough. i dont think its reason enough to break with someone, esp if things are otherwise good. opinions?
Lucasarts Posted January 4, 2006 Posted January 4, 2006 well this situation depends on how you feel and how strongly you feel about her imo i wouldnt get married until i absolutely knew the girl i was with was the one i loved with all my heart. I even set up the time trial of not just feeling this emotion over the course of a few months, but years. a few years of dating and seeing how that goes with a woman is the best test to see if she is really the one for me and i for her. Overall conclusion though: Dont jump ship but dont lift the sails. Let it drift out for a while, see where your relationship is going. If you still feel strongly enough for her as she seems to for you, then the marriage question shouldnt be so hard. you're both young and in love, but that doesnt mean that you should be getting married. Talk to your g/f more about this and tell her to stop talkin about marriage as it isnt in your mind just yet.
csfong007 Posted January 4, 2006 Posted January 4, 2006 I think it's important for you to be as honest with her as possible. She deserves that. If she has a full undertstanding of where you stand, then she can make her own decision.
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