I broke no contact and don't regret it

[lodgeillini88]

When we split up it wasn't ugly. No yelling, screaming or anything. She had a lot of issues to work on that was dragging the relationship down.

Saw her daughter Friday who had a nice conversation with me

Hadn't talked to my ex in over 3 weeks, and I saw some event that is right up her alley

I went back and forth on if I should send it to her then decided I would, mostly because it's the last year they are doing it

So I sent it to her on messenger and said "sorry to bother you but this event is the same one I had mentioned last year. This is the last one they are having and I know you like this stuff so just letting you know. Hope your doing well!"

Well she read it and didn't reply at all. Kinda of annoyed me I couldn't get a thank you or a hope your doing well to

3 hrs went buy and i sent a message saying "Not sure why I'm getting the silent treatment, I didn't do anything wrong, just trying to be nice, I don't deserve to get treated like dirt" Her reply was "or, I saw it got distracted and didn't have a chance to reply yet" (sounds like a excuse)

Yes my message was petty it just annoyed me I couldnt get a thank you

When she saw I read her reply she instabnlt blocked me on facebook" which is childish, so then I just said screw it and texted her " I dont wanna go through this getting mad at each other stuff, didnt mean to come off as a prick, sorry"

and she blocked my number..oh and also her daughter blocked me on facebook as well

I'm kinda annoyed at myself for breaking no contact but also I think maybe it's my chance to move on, and not always be waiting for her to contact me

[Gebidozo]

She hasn’t replied you for only 3 hours (!), and already you get impatient and angry and send her accusatory, aggressive, emotionally pressuring messages?

Dude, for this kind of thing you can easily get blocked by an actual girlfriend, and this was an ex!

Her blocking you wasn’t “childish”, it was the right thing to do. Leave her alone, move on, and please don’t behave like this with your next girlfriend.

[lodgeillini88]

4 hours ago, Gebidozo said:

She hasn’t replied you for only 3 hours (!), and already you get impatient and angry and send her accusatory, aggressive, emotionally pressuring messages?

Dude, for this kind of thing you can easily get blocked by an actual girlfriend, and this was an ex!

Her blocking you wasn’t “childish”, it was the right thing to do. Leave her alone, move on, and please don’t behave like this with your next girlfriend.

well she had read it and didnt bother replying

[Leihla_B]

40 minutes ago, lodgeillini88 said:

well she had read it and didnt bother replying

Your message was not a question and didn't require an immediate reply. Meanwhile, most of us tend to prioritize our focus on urgent stuff that's right in front of us, especially on a work day.

I'm glad you don't regret breaking contact, but your hyper-reaction to a relatively short delay in response demonstrated to her that you were running an attention-seeking agenda. She's not willing to cater to that, and there is nothing childish about blocking you.

Take the lesson on knee-jerk reactions and move forward with confidence that you won't do it again with anyone who matters in your future.

[Acacia98]

Please don't do this again. I'm not referring to breaking no contact. I'm referring to sending someone an unsolicited message with the expectation that they should respond a certain way. If you can't accept the possibility of silence or rejection, just leave the other person alone. 

[Gebidozo]

6 hours ago, lodgeillini88 said:

well she had read it and didnt bother replying

So what? She’s your ex. It’s her prerogative. She isn’t obliged to reply to anything. You had absolutely no grounds for sending her an angry, bitter text about that.

Also, it was just 3 hours. Even if she were still your GF, there would be no reason to get angry because she hasn’t replied in 3 hours.