Marielle Posted January 4, 2006 Posted January 4, 2006 I've been with this guy for 8 month, after being friends for more then a year...since the beggining we talk about love, he says he's crazy about me...and very jealous. He sees me everyday, we go out, but always end up at my place to have sex. He gives a lot of importance to it, and talks about it (honestly me too) .m, he says I m too beautiful for him, that he adores me, he wants to spend the rest of his life with me. Is it BS? I m concerned that this relationship could be only about lust...how do I recognize it? Maybe it's just my insecurities...How do I change the direction? What can I do? Myself I am very sexual around him, means that I have very passionate S with him, but I do want a long term R.
slubberdegullion Posted January 4, 2006 Posted January 4, 2006 Many men often equate sex with love, acceptance, respect and caring. Just like you have emotional needs that you would like fulfilled, he has sexual needs that he likes to have fulfilled. He's getting his emotional needs met by the acceptance that comes with sex. It's very positive that you and he seem to have a good communication style together. But one thing worries me a bit; his insistence that you're "too beautiful for him" and such. Self-denigration talk like that shows you only a tiny glimpse of what's going on in his mind, and if he's verbalizing it, that's a sign that danger may be lurking ahead. So keep talking, keep listening, and enjoy your time together.
Author Marielle Posted January 5, 2006 Author Posted January 5, 2006 Thanks for your inpus S, but what kind of danger do u mean? Can u explain? He could be a ....what? Thanks!
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