Angelina1433 Posted January 4, 2006 Posted January 4, 2006 So if anyone has been reading my prior posts, you know about my situation. Since then, there's been nothing but what I categorize as "love". We've been spending almost every night and day together and have been loving every minute of it (including New Year's eve and weekend). However, although I want to say "I love you", I'm afraid of the response. He may say it back, or he may not. He tells me things like "I adore you" and "I love spending time with you", and "I love smelling you in my pillows", etc... My question is - should I just say it without worrying about what he says back, or just wait for him?
Lifestream Posted January 4, 2006 Posted January 4, 2006 lol I doubt you'll hear it from the guy if you wait. If you think the time is right, go for it. If the relationship has been a couple months, sure, why not?
mattea Posted January 4, 2006 Posted January 4, 2006 i've been in your situation a couple of times. i was really feeling totally in love and wanting to say it, but not sure if i should. i guess i was afraid of how i'd feel if it wasn't reciprocated or of scaring my boyfriend off if he wasn't feeling the same way. both times that i said it first things went ok. it was reciprocated immediately one time, and not too long later the other time. i'd say you probably know in your gut if you're having that mutual experience. the thing to think about is, why would you tell him and why wouldn't you? i mean, do you just want him to know how he feels, without needing or expecting the same thing back? or will you be crushed if he doesn't return your feelings just yet?
SuperMonk Posted January 4, 2006 Posted January 4, 2006 However, although I want to say "I love you", I'm afraid of the response. He may say it back, or he may not. He tells me things like "I adore you" and "I love spending time with you", and "I love smelling you in my pillows", etc... This is a guy's way of saying "I love you" but indirectly. If you feel antsy about it, you should do what he does. Men are geniuses in romance, women just pretend to be.
FireReady Posted January 4, 2006 Posted January 4, 2006 Saying the words "I Love You" isn't something you just pop out. So if he hasn't said it yet, he might not be ready. And if you haven't said it yet, you may not be ready either. Don't hold back just b/c he might not say it. But don't say it unless you mean it. And most of all, don't be devastated if he doesn't say those sacred words back right away. After all, like I said, they are very powerful words, and for some, it takes time before you can put the feelings into words (in a sense, it's making it official) You might want to check out Girls Talk About It All for some female support.
Blackard Posted January 4, 2006 Posted January 4, 2006 Are we talking love or infatuation? Infatuation is a love of the person that you don't know, but find attractive. You see the aspects of this person that you find to be high on your priority list, then fill in the blanks on your own. True love is when you know all the bad things about them, when the fantasy person has faded, and still hold them dear to your heart. Almost impossible to love someone when you don't really know who they are yet. Just the way it is.
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