sinkerswim Posted January 3, 2006 Posted January 3, 2006 I first came here February of 2004. I was completely devastated, depressed, suicidal... it was awful. All because my fiance of 8 years dumped me.. and said he "needed space" one day.. he wouldnt answer my phone calls... he was very cold IF I did talk to him or he would just tell me to leave him alone. This place gave me sooo much help and I met a couple great people on here. I never thought I could love anyone but him and all I wanted was him back in my life. It took me quite some time..but I moved on in my life.. found a wonderful guy and I happily in love again. WELL... fast forward to Sept. 2005... the ex calls to apologize profusely... OK it felt great that he did it and we talked. I told him what I went through..I had my chance. Now fast forward to New Years Eve 2005.... guess what? HE WANTS ME BACK! WOW! Am I dreaming? Well... as much as I loved him at one point.. and I still do care for him in alot of ways.. I can NEVER take him back. It is making me feel bad...but he brought this on himself. I want to be his friend.. but thats about it. Anyway... Miracles do happen... but it may be too late when they do. (for them!) But I still feel sad that I am rejecting him now.
Just Visiting Posted January 3, 2006 Posted January 3, 2006 Wow...I remember following your situation and empathized during your moments of pain. It is funny isn't? I was going through a painful break-up the same time, and now I look at him and don't feel anything. It took me a looog time to get over that. Now I am going through another breakup (almost 4 mths). This time I find I am healing faster, probably due to lessons learned from the other one. Anywho, life is strange. They do seem to come back when you least expect it. Especially after you gone through the grieving process and no longer have romantic feelings for them. It has happened to me as well with another ex. It is understandable to feel bad for turning them down, but everything happens for a reason. And from what it sounds like, you have learned and came out much stronger from the experience.
Weezy789 Posted January 3, 2006 Posted January 3, 2006 Wow! I am not familiar with your story but it does sound like you are have made great progress! I recently broke up w/ my bf for the third time.. and it is not getting any easier! I want us to figure out what is wrong and fix it... however, not sure he will give me that opportunity. Congrats to you!! You accomplished a lot!
CaliGuy Posted January 3, 2006 Posted January 3, 2006 I first came here February of 2004. I was completely devastated, depressed, suicidal... it was awful. All because my fiance of 8 years dumped me.. and said he "needed space" one day.. he wouldnt answer my phone calls... he was very cold IF I did talk to him or he would just tell me to leave him alone. Other than being suicidal, she did the same to me. Dumped me cold, was very indifferent, etc. We weren't engaged or anything This place gave me sooo much help and I met a couple great people on here. I never thought I could love anyone but him and all I wanted was him back in my life. It took me quite some time..but I moved on in my life.. found a wonderful guy and I happily in love again. Not quite there but I hope to be soon. WELL... fast forward to Sept. 2005... the ex calls to apologize profusely... OK it felt great that he did it and we talked. I told him what I went through..I had my chance. Now fast forward to New Years Eve 2005.... guess what? HE WANTS ME BACK! WOW! Am I dreaming? Well... as much as I loved him at one point.. and I still do care for him in alot of ways.. I can NEVER take him back. Good for you. See my tag line, you're following it correctly It is making me feel bad...but he brought this on himself. Exactly I want to be his friend.. but thats about it. Don't give him the pleasure! Anyway... Miracles do happen... but it may be too late when they do. (for them!) But I still feel sad that I am rejecting him now. If the many people here would focus on healing themselves instead of jumping on and hanging on to our ex's for dear life, we'd reach the point you're at much faster. Congrats and best wishes to you.
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