Weezy789 Posted January 3, 2006 Posted January 3, 2006 I am new to this forum... guess not a good thing to be on this particular one! I could use everyone's advice on the following situation: My on/off again live in bf of 1.5 yrs recently left suddenly. Although he claims he had been thinking about it for awhile, it doesn't add up. His excuse was a lack of a future with us because of recent fighting. The things that don't add up are the fact he stocked the house up with HIS food the day before and a week before was talking about a family together. He did not collect all of his belongings from the house, and left with a tearful hug. He refuses to talk to me saying that everything has been said.. etc. His stuff is still here at my house! He hasn't said a word about coming to get it! I also found out he went out with an old gf from high school for the weekend, however when a mutual friend asked how his new year's was, he claimed he slept through it and inquired what I had done! I am sorry that it seems like a quick and rambling version... but I don't know what to think! If it is soooo over, why not come get your things? Why avoid talking to me at all, and why cry as you are packing your car? I just don't understand the suddenness and the weirdness of it all! I hope someone can guide me as to the next step... I have changed the locks, just so he can't come by when I am not here... but not sure what to do!! I am sooo confused!! Thanks for any help!!
itwontdawnsooner Posted January 3, 2006 Posted January 3, 2006 if hes so convinced its over, and is emotinal in front of you, its because in ways he's torn. he might be convinced its what he needs to do but at the same time, he can't turn off his emotions at all and maybe cant bring himself to get the rest of the stuff because the first time was so hard. if you dont want anything to do with him, send him his stuff or tell him to pick it up (not meanly, just directly and even politely aka "id like you to" "please"). he didnt do the same for you maybe, but be the mature person. if you say this to him, he'll definitley react but you need to know with at least some resolve what you want. telling him to get his stuff says "i agree, lets break". if thats what you want to do
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