sick of it Posted January 3, 2006 Posted January 3, 2006 ...the SO calls it quits. Im a hopeless romantic. Dreams, flowers, movies, sunsets, writing poetry/ music, planning future. I didnt do this in the span of a week...but over the course of my 5.5 yr relationship. ANd she loved it. How do i know? I have letters and cards, and notes, and gifts telling me so. You tell her the sweetest things, not to blow smoke up her butt, but to let her know how you feel. I love is nice....but something more poetic is nicer. Something more profound is better to say...a comparison, a hypathetical situation. "If this happened, i would..." Girls love that. when you make dinner of their favorite food. when you qoute a love song that isnt heard often. it shows you care. "god only know what id be without you." Any song that says id die without you. they like hearing how miserable you would be if you left. if you dont say it...sometimes they even get upset! but then...things get rocky and she gives up.... you dont want the break, she does. but being the romantic you are...holding the memories that you hold, you figure this is a break. ill do the sweet things i do and she'll know i love her. you picture the movie ending, the grand reconciliation. you hear every love song imaginable and see the two of you dancing until dawn. you know how you feel. and you let her know. Nothing. She doesnt want it. What? thats right. all the memories are forgotten. the happiness is gone for her. a romantic will think back to the happy times and say we were happy then, we can be happy now. we have dreams...this is just a rough patch. Still nothing. You sink. you fall. you kick and scream. you claw at the love you had until its gone. youre just as miserable as you said youd be. you feel like youre going to die. you live up to the words you said. being the romantic, you dont listen to the words "if you love it, let it go." you listen to the words "if theres someone that should know, then just let your feelings show." all of a sudden, the words that were the foundation of showing your love, now cause anger and resentment in the SO leaving. the love they wanted, they dont want anymore. youre stuck with it and cant give it to just anyone, so you keep putting it on the SO. more anger. more resentment. being a romantic is a beautiful, lovely thing when theres someone there. when theres someone not there. however, when the SO wants to leave, a romantic is the worst person to be.
notmakingsense Posted January 3, 2006 Posted January 3, 2006 Well put. For us romantics, NC is especially hard....
Geoffrey Posted January 4, 2006 Posted January 4, 2006 ....was for my ex-GF. Yeah, it hurts, but there's a LOT of other women out there who would appreciate that sort of thing, right?
notmakingsense Posted January 4, 2006 Posted January 4, 2006 ....was for my ex-GF. Yeah, it hurts, but there's a LOT of other women out there who would appreciate that sort of thing, right? I think so -- but definitely balance it with more testosterone-driven forms of affection as well.
Jadey Posted January 4, 2006 Posted January 4, 2006 ....was for my ex-GF. Yeah, it hurts, but there's a LOT of other women out there who would appreciate that sort of thing, right? I sure would!! lol
Author sick of it Posted January 4, 2006 Author Posted January 4, 2006 but will you ever mean it the same way? will those feelings ever mean the same thing? those songs, those lines youve quoted...can you ever yse them again? NO
dnm1010 Posted January 4, 2006 Posted January 4, 2006 im sorrry ure hurting.. sometimes it is best to leave her be and give her space to sort things out in her head.. me personally- i dont like romance. i might be the only woman though
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