notmakingsense Posted January 2, 2006 Posted January 2, 2006 She's thinking less about me. Sorry for the random post -- I'm still dealing with being on NC for about a month now. The good news is that I am starting to think about her less -- but Ironically, now I'm feeling sad -- because in the past, she's always the one to have moved on easier than me -- so I'm sure I'm rapidly departing her thoughts as well. Somehow, I want her to feel my loss. I wish I were at the point where it doesn't matter to me any longer -- but I'm not. Still have a piece of my heart that belongs to her.
chocolate_boy Posted January 3, 2006 Posted January 3, 2006 sure but if shes the one that ended it, she is the one that is responsible for it too, so it is out of your control.
Brittanyjean06 Posted January 3, 2006 Posted January 3, 2006 I've managed to not think of my ex for atleast 20 minutes- SCORE!!!!-
Author notmakingsense Posted January 3, 2006 Author Posted January 3, 2006 Hey Chocolate -- I'm the one that ended it -- but only because she wouldn't commit and kept withdrawing (not returning calls and e-mails).... so we are both responsible. I realize it is out of my control -- I just get sad when I think about how easily she let me go... Brittany -- way to go! 20 minutes is a lot of time for me as well!
Jadey Posted January 3, 2006 Posted January 3, 2006 We have to try and not care that they have moved on. We will be ok!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Geoffrey Posted January 3, 2006 Posted January 3, 2006 but it is a slo-o-o-ow process....i have many mixed feelings, sadness, anger, disappointment, helplessness, and then brief periods of resolve....
Jadey Posted January 3, 2006 Posted January 3, 2006 but it is a slo-o-o-ow process....i have many mixed feelings, sadness, anger, disappointment, helplessness, and then brief periods of resolve.... I'm the same. Do you sometimes feel all these emotions in one day?
Geoffrey Posted January 3, 2006 Posted January 3, 2006 ....sometimes all within the span of a few minutes. I just can't imagine still being stuck in this difficult season six months from now....I'm not sure I could take much more of it....
Jadey Posted January 3, 2006 Posted January 3, 2006 I know how you feel. If you ever need to talk, i'm here. I'm young but i know my s*** You can get through it x
sick of it Posted January 3, 2006 Posted January 3, 2006 hope and guilt of the 2 biggest things that keep us from moving on. the hope that theyll come back keeps you from leaving your spot of lonliness. guilt also. if you hope and wish that they are thinking about you, chances are youre gauging their amount of thinking of you to the amount youre thinking of them. if you eventually stop thinking of them, you feel guilty, because it means its over....let me say that again.... if they choose to break up with you and youre hoping that theyre thinking of you, what does it mean if the person who is still in love (you) eventually stops thinking about them. your mind puts 2+2 together to come to the conclusion that theyre are over you because they wanted to be.
Geoffrey Posted January 3, 2006 Posted January 3, 2006 I know how you feel. If you ever need to talk, i'm here. I'm young but i know my s*** You can get through it x Thanks, Jadey!! I was your age in 1981, dear.... You will be ok too!
Author notmakingsense Posted January 3, 2006 Author Posted January 3, 2006 hope and guilt of the 2 biggest things that keep us from moving on. the hope that theyll come back keeps you from leaving your spot of lonliness. guilt also. if you hope and wish that they are thinking about you, chances are youre gauging their amount of thinking of you to the amount youre thinking of them. if you eventually stop thinking of them, you feel guilty, because it means its over....let me say that again.... if they choose to break up with you and youre hoping that theyre thinking of you, what does it mean if the person who is still in love (you) eventually stops thinking about them. your mind puts 2+2 together to come to the conclusion that theyre are over you because they wanted to be. Sick of it... you are so right... I have also found, that although I think of her less and less, my thoughts tend to focus on the positives, then move to how all those things I loved are being enjoyed by another... it takes a greater effort to remember the things that made it hard for us to work out. Jadey, Geoffrey, thanks for your posts. You guys will make it -- just as I know I will.
Geoffrey Posted January 3, 2006 Posted January 3, 2006 Jadey, Geoffrey, thanks for your posts. You guys will make it -- just as I know I will. You are most welcome....
Brittanyjean06 Posted January 3, 2006 Posted January 3, 2006 well if you think about it 6 months is not alot of time! and i hate to say it but to get over someone who you love- will take so much time- you will feel better, but than there will be days when you feel like the first day again- even after 6 months!
Geoffrey Posted January 3, 2006 Posted January 3, 2006 well, in the handful of times i spoke with my ex on the phone....last time was Xmas Eve (she called me)....she cries and doesn't stay on very long....i know for a fact that she takes quite some time to get over the broken hearts in her life...that poor girl, i love her sooooo much, but she is so unwell mentally right now....severe depression has her in its grip....we were together 14 mos, lived together for a year too. If you look up "inseparable" in the dictionary, you'll find a picture of us there. She also still has a bunch of my stuff there, I gave her some things of mine that she always liked when I moved out a month ago, and she says she wants to pack the other things up for me, but when I have asked about it, she tells me she "can't handle that right now," so I've just left the matter alone. Kind of an unspoken NC thing. So, is she thinking about me? Highly likely. Am I thinking about her? Yes, but doing my best not to.
Mz. Pixie Posted January 3, 2006 Posted January 3, 2006 NMS- You're making it. When she contacts you again, make sure YOU set the parameters for what the relationship will be like, not her and if she can't accept it then tell her to hit the road. She will contact you again, you're the fall back guy.
Geoffrey Posted January 3, 2006 Posted January 3, 2006 .....did anyone ever tell you how much you look like Marlo Thomas?
Author notmakingsense Posted January 3, 2006 Author Posted January 3, 2006 NMS- You're making it. When she contacts you again, make sure YOU set the parameters for what the relationship will be like, not her and if she can't accept it then tell her to hit the road. She will contact you again, you're the fall back guy. Hey Mz. Pixie -- you ARE my favorite coach! You have a way of putting things that boost my strength -- like reminding me that I am the fall back guy That's good for me, so thanks. I'm inclinded to believe that she will contact me also -- I think I'll PM you before answering any calls/notes!
Brittanyjean06 Posted January 3, 2006 Posted January 3, 2006 Nope, haven't gotten that one yet just um carmen electra- kelly clarkson- lol Marlo Thomas? eh what a twist haahha
Brittanyjean06 Posted January 4, 2006 Posted January 4, 2006 geoffery- YOUR KILLING ME here lol haha just playing
Mz. Pixie Posted January 4, 2006 Posted January 4, 2006 NMS- I know I can seem mean at times, I don't mean to be. It's just that I get the impression you are a great guy, alot like my husband- who went through the same thing with one of his ex gf's before he met me. PM me anytime!
Jadey Posted January 4, 2006 Posted January 4, 2006 Geoffrey, if they text you a merry xmas they must be thinking about you right? They must do to text you?
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