For all those who have gotten married...I need advice on everything and anything!

[Naive]

I am having problems from the smallest to the biggest things related to my wedding. I finally set a date for December 2, 2006. Now it's time to prepare everything and it's so hard!!! I would appreciate any advice that you have to give relating to a wedding, whether it be a personal experience or just an input; I want to hear it all!! It can be anything, church, ballroom, food, reception, shoes, party favors, whatever as long as it relates to a wedding. I just was your advice and personal experiences. Thanks.

[Outcast]

I suggest you go to some wedding websites. Remember, LS is mostly people broken up or not yet married.

[Moose]

I suggest you go to some wedding websites. Remember, LS is mostly people broken up or not yet married.

Yeah, but not ALL of us!!! hehe

 

Anyway, I wish I could help. Mrs. Moose and her Mom took care of every last detail, cept' the limo......

 

Maybe you can get some help from your Mom or your future MIL???

 

Do you have any friends who only dream about getting married, but most likely won't??? Maybe you can convince them to live their dream through you??? Sounds mean, I know........

[Naive]

I suggest you go to some wedding websites. Remember, LS is mostly people broken up or not yet married.

 

Well, there's a reason why there is a wedding section in LS...

 

What better place to get some feedback that LS? I have been coming to this site since 3/04 and have gotten so much advice whether it be about love issues or anything else. I feel much closer with LS than any wedding site forum. I have been to those forums and they are great but I would love to read from people on LS, not only the people I know but everyone that is willing to ofeer advice.

 

Regardless of whether people on here are in good relationships or not they may have some bad or good experiences relating to their wedding or things they have heard or customs and I am more than happy to read them!!!

 

Loveshack is not only for bad events but for good as well. People who come on here are not only people with bad relationships, there are also people who want to give advice. There is a wedding section because obviously there are people who come on here to discuss weddings. It may not be the main focus but there IS a section for it which means it gets enough discussions to get its own section.

 

So, if anyone has any ideas, advice, tips, experiences, etc. please share!!!!

[Art_Critic]

When I was married it was in a slave plantation house from 1848.

 

My then wife to be used the list that the 1848 house provided for photographers, caterers, flowers , music and the like..

 

From that list she used a wedding coordinator that helped her set it all up..

 

If you know where you are going to be married contact them for a list of approved suppliers.. that should get you going..

[Touche]

My advice? Keep it as simple as you can. Involve your hubby to be. Ask him his opinions on things...afterall he's the other half of this whole equation. Don't let the wedding planning come between you. Lots of couples fight during this time. Set the tone for the rest of your marriage now. Compromise...no one gets what they want all of the time. It's just ONE day out of your whole lives...believe me, the memory of it will fade. The wedding day is not the be all and end all you think it is. The marriage IS, however.

 

Most of all, HAVE FUN! It's supposed to be a fun occasion. Oh, and one more thing...roll with the punches. It will never go EXACTLY as you planned. Things cand and DO go wrong sometimes...My own wedding had a couple of "flubs" but we chose to laugh them off.

 

Remember, set the tone for your marriage NOW!

[HokeyReligions]

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[JUSTME3]

Elope to some beautiful place have it video taped and then have a great party after you return. It takes all the stress out of the wedding and you get to enjoy the wedding. Then go home and have a wonderful catered event and show your wedding video as a prelude.

[travellingman]

It can be anything, church, ballroom, food, reception, shoes, party favors, whatever as long as it relates to a wedding. I just was your advice and personal experiences.

 

5 hours that went by it what felt like 5 minutes. You won't even notice half the things you spend days deciding on.

[It's all good]

You need to have guidlines on money before you plan. If you have limited funds you won't want 200 people in a huge ball room with a live band.....and vice versa.

People go to the wedding expecting great food. Be very picky about this and sample all foods first!

Theme weddings? If you like celtic or country garden, modern, whatever go with it. It's so much eaiser if you have some sort of mood to go by.

Music is important too. DJ or live band. Make sure you sample all music and see the band or DJ live if you can before commiting!

 

I have been married twice. 1) big, loads of people, huge ball room, the works. Mom did it all. I hated most of it!!! 2) small, intimate, celtic harps, outside, simple reception with dJ. Loved every moment of it! Whatever your choice, it does go by fast so take lots of pictures, and something will go wrong (like my husband wearing sneakers instead of shoes with his tux because they forget to give them to him!) but let it all slide. what matters is your love and the marriage. Not so much the party!

[Becoming]

Elope!

 

Seriously, I absolutely stressed out over planning a wedding that had the flowers all stalled in a truck wreck, and at that point it absolutely didn't matter. At 2:30 a.m. the day of the afternoon wedding, my husband and I looked at each other and said, "Let's just leave and go get married now" because no matter what you plan, it's not really your wedding. It's your parents, Aunt Mabel's, Grandpa Joe's, etc. They're the ones who're gonna have fun. You're the dress up dolls for everyone else's pleasure. You're so busy talking to everyone as host/hostess that you don't really get to have much fun.

 

Just know what you're getting into with what the ceremony says, and plan a good party for everyone. Keep it simple and spend the money on a new home.

[bab]

There is a wedding section because obviously there are people who come on here to discuss weddings.

 

It's why I came to LS. I just got back from a attending a gorgeous wedding in Hawaii. It was picture perfect. That is definitely something to consider. My fiance was the best man, and I didn't know the couple extremely well before I went, and I really got to know them well in the last week. Very small and intimate, (12 guests), but beautiful. They are planning a reception back at home next summer. Gorgeous.

[Tamrick]

I'm planning a wedding at the moment and I agree - it can be a nightmare. Look on wedding sites for your country and pick a venue or get a coordinator who will help set absolutely everything up. There are many wedding planning sites - find one in your area and the people there will help you with all the details and even cost issues.

[reddog63]

If I had to do over again, I would have made it simple and inexpensive and spent the real money on the honeymoon.

 

BUT.............I will never do it again!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[alphamale]

spend more time planning your marriage and less time planning your wedding...

[Lil Honey]

spend more time planning your marriage and less time planning your wedding...

Holy Flirking Schnit, I agree with Alpha ! ! ! ! !

 

I had a very small wedding (about 25 people). No one was overwhelmed with details and there were fewer things to go wrong. It was personal, intimate and as stress-free as one could expect.

 

Besides, at what point does "300 of your closest friends" become "people you barely know"?

 

If I were to get married again, it would be as small or smaller. I would never want a big wedding. I get the impression that many folks have big weddings to show off or out-do someone else, as if it's a status thing.