Author Lishy Posted January 3, 2006 Author Posted January 3, 2006 Alpha I can hardly miss a great big range rover and he beeps up at me!
alphamale Posted January 3, 2006 Posted January 3, 2006 Alpha I can hardly miss a great big range rover and he beeps up at me! so then he's rich and a blithering idiot also? great.....
Author Lishy Posted January 3, 2006 Author Posted January 3, 2006 He isnt rich but the blithering idiot bit is right lol Or am I just taking this wrong - Maybe he has just moved on and doesnt see the big deal in driving down any road he wants to?
clandestinidad Posted January 3, 2006 Posted January 3, 2006 I think he's doing it to see what youre up to. Maybe to see if you have another car there or something. Did he ever want to be more than FWB??
Author Lishy Posted January 3, 2006 Author Posted January 3, 2006 No Kat, but I did and I told him this - He told me that he cant have a relationship as he wants to go to Australia and buy properties and he doesnt want to look back and say he didnt do these things because he was in a relationship. We got on really well and I know he really liked me. I have not contacted him for the longest time now so he knows by now that I have stopped calling - I do think that deep down he didnt expect me to stop calling him. He got hurt before by a few girls and I think he is scared - But I also realise that if he had liked me enough he would have took the chance!
clandestinidad Posted January 3, 2006 Posted January 3, 2006 I think he really does like you...and is probably regretting what he's done. Whether or not he decides to swallow his pride or do anything about it, I dont know..... but I think since he's still going by your house, that he still likes you. He's obviously still thinking about you, and wants to be around where you are, if not in person. Its pretty weird, but he's probably reeaaally irritated and confused. I also think he's seeing if anyone is at your house, or if youre at your house (as opposed to out with other people)....he probably hopes that youre as miserable as he is I'm proud of you and admire you for having the strength to cut if off like that b/c you werent getting what you wanted! Youre doing a great job!!!
Author Lishy Posted January 3, 2006 Author Posted January 3, 2006 Kat it is so hard at times (like right now) I am really unwell with this abscess and I cant go out and occupy myself (there is only so much housework a gal can do lol) so I am thinking about him alot - And him driving past again has made it worse! I sort of agree that him driving past means he is trying to get my attention - I am just unsure as to why! Unless he calls me I will never know and that drives me crazy! If he wanted me he knows that I would be responsive, I have told him that in so many words! He is online now and it is so hard not to IM him - BUT I WON'T! I have to be strong and I will not make do with second best! But I do wonder if he just doesn't even think about me and him and that is why he drives past - Maybe it is no big deal to him and he feels that driving past my house is no big deal! Maybe I am making more of this than it is because of how I feel! Then I think that if a guy told me how he felt and I didnt feel the same I would take care NOT to drive past his house incase he got the wrong impression! Oh my head is such a muddle today! All I know for sure is that I hate feeling like this! Sorry to drive you all mad with this same ole same!
alphamale Posted January 3, 2006 Posted January 3, 2006 I sort of agree that him driving past means he is trying to get my attention - I am just unsure as to why! I will tell u why LISHY....because he misses his no-strings-attached sexual relationship. Most men would...
clandestinidad Posted January 3, 2006 Posted January 3, 2006 Its not driving us mad, lishy! And you should stay on here as much as you need to so that you dont fall into the calling or IM-ing trap! You might want to block him...if its on aol then you wont see him online. If its yahoo, then you could just delete him b/c youll still see him there otherwise. When was the last time you moved your car? I'm just thinking that if there are multiple places to park, you could move it a little so he thinks youve at least GONE somewhere and arent home being miserable....i dont know...... But anyway, what other routes could he drive? Are they difficult or longer?? edit: i meant, he would see that you had gone somewhere and come back, since the last time he drove by....didnt mean to hide your car somewhere so he'd think you were gone...hahaha...that would be too crazy
Author Lishy Posted January 3, 2006 Author Posted January 3, 2006 No hon he could drive lots of different (and quicker) routes. He even WALKED past my house on his way to work a few weeks ago and it was definately the long route around! My car isnt parked right outside my house as I live on a busy road in London and have to park around the corner. He could tell if I was home as my place is visable from the road and you can see lights on. He probably just misses his 'free booty' Alpha is probably right ::Sigh::
alphamale Posted January 3, 2006 Posted January 3, 2006 He even WALKED past my house on his way to work a few weeks ago and it was definately the long route around! how would u know this unless you were looking out the window?? He probably just misses his 'free booty' Alpha is probably right ::Sigh:: sorry but the truth hurts sometimes. . My recommendation is to stay in total NC and see if he contacts you 1st. If and when he does and he wants to get back together you need to tell him no more free sex without a relationship.
ms_jnj Posted January 3, 2006 Posted January 3, 2006 My ex internet stalks me checking my MySpace and other web blog things daily...and it's been 8 months! Before I mvoed to another city he would drive by my house several times a day....I have no idea why they do this...but at least I can tell you that it isn't just you!
clandestinidad Posted January 3, 2006 Posted January 3, 2006 Ms JNJ: how can you tell he checks your space daily?? does it show up somewhere? (uh-ohhhh...i'm guilty)
Author Lishy Posted January 3, 2006 Author Posted January 3, 2006 I like the truth Alpha - We all want to hear the best but I am a realist! I was looking out of my bedroom window whilst taking my shoes off in my bedroom and couldn't belive he was walking past - He even looked back up at my place! Hey it's MY house - I dont look out of the wondow or out of my balcony for him - I LIKE standing outside watching the world go by - I was doing it way before I even met him so why should I stop now? I will definately stay in no contact and I do not expect him to contact me
clandestinidad Posted January 3, 2006 Posted January 3, 2006 did he know that you spent a lot of time outside?? maybe he's hoping you'll be out there
Author Lishy Posted January 4, 2006 Author Posted January 4, 2006 He knows that I go out on my balcony to smoke. Since he drove past earlier he has been online alot, which is unusual for him! He is such a head fk -
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