Angel29 Posted August 16, 2024 Posted August 16, 2024 My colleague left work yesterday. I felt really upset as he was a nice person and helped me with the work overload. Though a lot of times he really got me down as he was always venting about the organisation and the manager bullying him. I know I am a good listener but it was the same conversations and I feel he should have gone to a counsellor. I will miss him but feel my mental health will improve now. He vented to others but in the end they stopped speaking to him or were blunt with him. It is not good to be associated with someone who always complains. What is the best way to shut down people like this in future? I don’t want another energy vampire on my hands.
basil67 Posted August 21, 2024 Posted August 21, 2024 On 8/17/2024 at 3:25 AM, Angel29 said: My colleague left work yesterday. I felt really upset as he was a nice person and helped me with the work overload. Though a lot of times he really got me down as he was always venting about the organisation and the manager bullying him. I know I am a good listener but it was the same conversations and I feel he should have gone to a counsellor. I will miss him but feel my mental health will improve now. He vented to others but in the end they stopped speaking to him or were blunt with him. It is not good to be associated with someone who always complains. What is the best way to shut down people like this in future? I don’t want another energy vampire on my hands. I'd probably run with something like "I understand your frustration, however I cannot keep having these conversations with you. I find it overwhelming and I don't have the skills to assist you.. May I suggest you get a therapist?" 1
MsJayne Posted August 23, 2024 Posted August 23, 2024 Be a problem solver, habitual whingers avoid them like the plague. When someone starts belly-aching, suggest solutions, eg, "You need to talk to HR rather than just telling other staff" or "Maybe you'd be happier in another job". Politely make it clear you're not taking sides. 2
basil67 Posted August 23, 2024 Posted August 23, 2024 1 hour ago, MsJayne said: Be a problem solver, habitual whingers avoid them like the plague. When someone starts belly-aching, suggest solutions, eg, "You need to talk to HR rather than just telling other staff" or "Maybe you'd be happier in another job". Politely make it clear you're not taking sides. This is brilliant!
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