melgirl Posted January 2, 2006 Posted January 2, 2006 hi everyone...im in high school and so is my bf of almost 1 year, and everythings good except the fact that we're in high school. i feel like we're in love and everything, and it feels real, but i feel like i should know better. like stop being naive this is puppy love. im sick of the whole high school-relationship thing...making out in the movies, holding hands at school. it seems terribly cliche and boring. i feel like we could be the real thing, but our age is restricting. also there's the daunting fact that in a year we'll probably HAVE to leave each other for college......and w/ being a fresh. in college and a long distant relationship that would be hard. im trying not to be naive, i know hardly any high school relationships actually last, and if they do they usually arent happy. i feel like we should eventually experience other things, but im afraid i wont find anything better than him....hmmm anyone in a high school relationship/or has been there have any thoughts/advice?thanksMEL.
JS17 Posted January 2, 2006 Posted January 2, 2006 Many of us have been in high school relationships and felt the way that you do now. All of your thoughts are normal. Don't pressure yourself to not be naieve, you're in the beginning stages of dating and this is your time to learn. Just appreciate it for what it is now and enjoy it. Some people go on to marry their high school sweethearts, some go on to find other relationships that suit them better as adults, and some of us don't find anyone better than their high school bf or gf. You never know so you just have to do what's right for you at the time. If you're happy together now then don't question it and just deal with it when the time comes if it has to come to an end.
Lifestream Posted January 2, 2006 Posted January 2, 2006 Coming from a guy fresh out of high school, I was in a similar situation as you. I had the same thoughts. I was in grade 12 and she was in grade 11. The kicker is that I wasn't driven off because I wanted to find a better girl. I was driven off because she became so insecure about the relationship and my leaving for university that I didn't have the energy to reassure her anymore. She was so insecure she felt the need to call me incessantly, talk hours on end, always have physical contact and that sort of thing. I used to reason with her about the whole leaving for university. In my perspective it's just a natural maturation. You just can't have what you want all the time, we aren't children anymore. There isn't going to be as much instant gratification, something kids are easily used to. It's a natural part of growing up. I told her something like "What are we going to do when we get full time jobs and we're the only thing on each others minds? We have to be without each other for some period of time whether we like it or not." You have to know when to be professional and when to make room for other relationships. It's a huge juggling act and everyone has to do it. You have to adapt. To be honest balancing a relationship apart isn't the hardest thing to do. If both parties are well adjusted and understanding individuals both will realize that there is time for love and time for work/school. The more you accept the fact that you can't be together all the time like a ball and chain the better off you'll be. PM me if you like...I have a lot more where that came from...lol
Gold Pile Posted January 2, 2006 Posted January 2, 2006 Even when I remind them that some students are legal (18), school security still tells me that HS relationships are bad. Then they threaten to call police. Your dreams and plans often change dramatically in the decades after school. So to will your tastes in people.
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