exotic_virgin Posted January 2, 2006 Posted January 2, 2006 Is it true that when in love at the beginning you want to spend every moment of every day with them or is their exception to the rule?
Outcast Posted January 2, 2006 Posted January 2, 2006 Is it true that when in love at the beginning you want to spend every moment of every day with them No. Not true.
Tony Posted January 2, 2006 Senior Moderators Posted January 2, 2006 Well, some people like to spend all their time or at least as much as possible with their newly beloved, especially when you're young. It's pretty natural. After a while, burn out begins to set it and one or both start wanting a little time away. People newly in love spend a lot of time on the phone with each other as well. And when they aren't together or aren't talking to each other, they're thinking about each other. It's a really nice feeling.
Author exotic_virgin Posted January 2, 2006 Author Posted January 2, 2006 Tony ... If u dont does it mean u dont love that person... If ur naturally a free spirt and love ur freedom?
Lucasarts Posted January 2, 2006 Posted January 2, 2006 if you dont what? dont want to be together all the time? dont want to cling to each other every 5 secs? that doesnt mean its not love, it simply means your just not the one to obsess and cling to your new partner every 5 seconds *imo thats the worst thing, have a clingy partner, shows insecurity and total dependence on someone... no your love is just as fine, and could possibly be stronger then those who suffocate in each other's arms.
Touche Posted January 2, 2006 Posted January 2, 2006 I think the time apart, in that beginning stage, is almost as good as the time together. The anticipation, the dreaming - it's all good. Plus it really lets you step back and try (operative word there) TRY to put things in perspective.
Author exotic_virgin Posted January 4, 2006 Author Posted January 4, 2006 So guys.... Lets say that u spend the night with a guy.... U spent till 2 o clock togather and then.... u left is it alot to expect a call in the evening?
Author exotic_virgin Posted January 4, 2006 Author Posted January 4, 2006 So guys.... Lets say that u spend the night with a guy.... U spent till 2 o clock togather and then.... u left is it alot to expect a call in the evening?
Lucasarts Posted January 4, 2006 Posted January 4, 2006 2 in the afternoon? well i guess a call that nite would be common curtesy but no not required (i mean damn you were there all day practically)
Touche Posted January 4, 2006 Posted January 4, 2006 Also, it depends on the nature of the relationship I guess. Could it have possibly have been considered a one night stand? Or was there a previous history with this person?
Author exotic_virgin Posted January 4, 2006 Author Posted January 4, 2006 A month of previous history... No sex involved...
Author exotic_virgin Posted January 4, 2006 Author Posted January 4, 2006 PLuse what really buggs me is that at the beging he would call and text every day... Now he calls once a day only and he says its cause we see more of each other... He says hes feelings have not changed.... SO why is he not chasing like he started at the beging?
Walk Posted January 4, 2006 Posted January 4, 2006 Are you spending more time with him now? (less on phone) The time you spend together, is it alone, or with other people? Do you feel the two of you are spending more time together then prior? What's bothering you about his only calling once a day? From the outside, I would think that's pretty normal after a period of time. So what's bugging you about his actions? Something you've noticed? Or just afraid of?
Lucasarts Posted January 4, 2006 Posted January 4, 2006 be glad that he is still calling you once a day, there is no need to obsess over the man and hes not obsessing over you (but that does not mean he doesn't love you). Men like to have their space as well, we dont like a clingy partner (well most men don't i think). usually i call my girl every other day, hang out with her the days i dont call her, so that there is still communication still going on. but i like to have my breathing room as well.
jen_jen_heartbroken Posted January 4, 2006 Posted January 4, 2006 One call a day is very normal, and very healthy. Much more...unless you're arranging plans or something, can be too much. The point of free time away from one another, doing seperate things, is so that you both remain a whole person...and can bring fresh things to your relationship. It's good to see your friends separate from your partner, because then you have other people to lean on and derrive happiness from. If you had all your needs met by one person, then you are too dependent, and if things ended (for whatever reason), the loss would be much more painful. So, yes, it's good for couples to have contact every day...just to say "I love you"....it feeds the soul and the heart. But there's such a thing as too much of a good thing.
Author exotic_virgin Posted January 4, 2006 Author Posted January 4, 2006 Yes we actually also spend alot of time with his friends.... Or in his friends house... Even at the very begining when we saw less of each other.... As though he is scared of being alone... Its like 50% of time we spend with his friends and given that we see each other between 2 or 3 days a week... I don't think its normal... Maybe cause I am just 19...
Author exotic_virgin Posted January 4, 2006 Author Posted January 4, 2006 Thanks you guys you are all being so kind and suportive... Yes we actually also spend alot of time with his friends.... Or in his friends house... Even at the very begining when we saw less of each other.... As though he is scared of being alone... Its like 50% of time we spend with his friends and given that we see each other between 2 or 3 days a week... I don't think its normal... Maybe cause I am just 19...
Outcast Posted January 4, 2006 Posted January 4, 2006 Outcast? U dont or u do? I was answering the general 'you' rather than the personal. I personally do and will. I'm not one of those people that craves 'space' and I'm quite happy to spend plenty of time with someone I care about. I carry them in my heart so I never feel they're away from me anyway. However humans are not all the same and some people have very different needs for companionship and can't manage without chunks of time on their own even though they dearly love their partners.
Author exotic_virgin Posted January 4, 2006 Author Posted January 4, 2006 How normal is it for a boy to take u every where with his friends... All male by the way it makes me feel uncomfortable....
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