hopeless01 Posted January 2, 2006 Posted January 2, 2006 There's this girl that I like and I tried to ask her out on dates and I'm just shy about it so I would ask her "If she wants to hang out." . I left a voicemail since I couldn't reach her a week before christmas and got a response back through my voicemail after christmas with her telling me she's been busy doing shopping trips with her friends. Seems kind of weird for her to call me a week later :-( She said "I hope you have a great new years, and hope you find love, and anything else that's good in your life" - What did she mean by that last phrase? I'm about to give her a call tomorrow after spending a couple days being busy and thinking about not making a move, but a part of me fears she's not interested. Michael
Art_Critic Posted January 2, 2006 Posted January 2, 2006 She nicely blew you off.. by leaving the voicemail she was telling you to take care..something someone interested in you doesn't say. At least you got a response and now it is up to you to move on.
Touche Posted January 2, 2006 Posted January 2, 2006 I agree. She's not interested. The "take care" thing doesn't in itself mean that much to me but the part about "finding love" certainly is a dead give-away. No woman is going to say THAT to a man she's interested in dating.
Neptune Posted January 2, 2006 Posted January 2, 2006 Everything you have described indicates that she is not interested. No big deal. Just move on to the next possibility. You have to continually be learning the rules of the road in realtionships and dating. I suspect most of what you did was the wrong thing at the wrong time. Here is what I would have done with the grain of knowlege that I have. First, I would have waited until the holiday season was completely over. Too much distraction during this time. Then, what I find best is to ask a girl point blank on a date. Precise day and time. The next best thing is to call her at 4:00 on a Sat. afternoon with a definite plan for the evening. None of this just hang out sort of thing. If a girl has struck out for Sat evening and thinks she will be at the house watching tv for the evening. Your call will get a yes quicker than any other time. but make sure to propose something (or have a good plan up your sleve;) ) What I am getting at is to think, plan and act. If you don`t get any action move on to the next girl. And have a list and check it twice. As soon as a girl is stuck off the list move on to the next. In fact, it is better to hang up the phone and pick it right back up for the next girl if plan A bombs out.
Author hopeless01 Posted January 2, 2006 Author Posted January 2, 2006 Thanks for the help Art_Critic, Touche, Neptune Yes you may be right Neptune, she was probably not as interested as I was and it could also be bad timing. But I believe that if a girl likes a guy she will allow him to mess up and overlook his nervousness the first couple of times. And to tell you the truth, I am very nervous on the first couple calls and the first date. :-| I'll go work on being more confident. I have no problems with rejection, I don't think I want her as a friend though so I am going to move on to better prospects. Michael
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