Author EMJ Posted January 14, 2006 Author Posted January 14, 2006 I'm starting to see a lot very inexpericened people posting crazy nonsense in these posts. There's not a lot of rationality or depth of experience in many of these posts. The advice they give is worse than useless, it's often harmful. In my personal and professional life I'm asked for my opinion and perspective on a daily basis. I just want to say something about the idea the the OW is some kind of damaged person. I am approached fairly often by MM. I'm not looking for it or them and have discussed with several of them thier reasons for wanting to step outside the marriage. These men are not your serial cheaters. Most of them are just very lonley and have no passion in their lives. For most of them it's not something they ever thought they would consider. But a sexless and boring marriage is also something they also never thought they would never have either. I have asked "Why me? Why do you think I would be interested? " They say they don't know if I'm interested or not, but that they are just attracted to me. The reasons they have given: I'm very informed about things going on in the world. I'm fully engaged and passionate about things I get involved in. I'm generally very clear sighted, can see the problems and attack them head on. I'm not afraid of life and always interested in learning. I have a strong passion for life and compassion for the underdog. I see humor in just about everything. I don't waste time with petty, mean spirited, selfish, and VENEGEFUL peolpe. My confidence is not dependent on the approval of others. I take full responsiblity for my life and my own happiness. That's what they are missing in their lives. I have rarely seen this predatory OW you describe. Those women are usually pretty transparent and men usually RUN from them. I've mostly seen lonely people who are looking for that joy of life again and after many years of trying to improve the marriage they decide to look elsewhere.
Recommended Posts