Ruff Ryder Posted December 31, 2005 Posted December 31, 2005 My story is long and got ugly very ugly at one stage. Any ways my fiance and i split up 3 months ago. However in the last few weeks (2 or 3 weeks) We have been seing more and more of eachother. 2 nights ago we go out for a party an we end up at my place she stays over (you all know the story) Then last night we go out again and when i drop her off it was goodnight kiss after good night kiss from her not me. So now tonight we have a huge party planed and its going to be wild. I suppose all i want to know with things going the way they are is there a chance that maybe we will get things right? The biggest problem we had was the fun and excitment went away about 3 years into the relantionship, but now when she is with me all she dors is laugh and smile and we have a really good time together. So what are my chances?
Just Visiting Posted December 31, 2005 Posted December 31, 2005 Well you seem to be off at a good start. Just take it sloooowwww. It's easy to get caught up in all the happy happy joy joy feelings. But it can kill the second chance. So take it slow my friend. I wish you all the best.
gfto Posted December 31, 2005 Posted December 31, 2005 First of all, you two "split up" three months ago. How did that happen? Who called it off? I'm willing to bet that it was her. If so, you have to consider a reality. If she got rid of you once, she'll get rid of you again.
Author Ruff Ryder Posted January 2, 2006 Author Posted January 2, 2006 Happy New year to you all, may all your dreams come true. Well in all honesty it was circumstace thart split us up from her and from me but i think the finall decision was her. New years eve was great she kissed me at a club we went too and that was before we got a little bit drunk. We kissed a few times through the night and then went went to my house she and i made love all night fell asleep (i thought it was maybe that we were drunk) however we wake up both of us sober and we procced do it all over again. Im not to sure what it means or were to go with it but it was fantastic and we both enjoyed eachothers company all night and she says she loved the night and after our session at home she said that she loves me. I would love to get back together with her and id love things to go all well. Any advise on how to make it right and start over would be much appreciated. Kindest regards
slubberdegullion Posted January 2, 2006 Posted January 2, 2006 All this love-feeling-oh-isn't-this-wonderful stuff is good and fine, but it doesn't address the issue. If both of you have managed to overcome the issues that had you breaking up in the first place, then by all means, you have a real chance. But if those issues have just been put aside for a short time, they'll resurface again with a vengeance. It sounds like things are going well, and for that I congratulate you. But don't take your eyes off the reality; the original reason for the split. Good luck.
Becoming Posted January 2, 2006 Posted January 2, 2006 I second Slubber. (BTW, Slub, how're you doing?) Something's in the back of your mind that's caused you to post this. You're justifiably wary. Work on articulating that and you'll know better how to proceed. In the meantime, enjoy the ride because you know it won't last forever.
francis Posted January 3, 2006 Posted January 3, 2006 I think that there is a certain thrill involved with getting passionate and physical with an ex...because in a way it is 'forbidden' and 'wrong'. You have to communicate with her. Tell her how you feel. Having sex with her without boundaries is going to confuse the both of you. Don't be a casual sex partner to her, or make yourself available to her like that. Because suddenly, you will cheapen her and what you share. The only option you have is to see if you are on the same page. If not, you are setting yourself up for a lot of heartache.
Nikita20 Posted January 6, 2006 Posted January 6, 2006 Hi Ruff: All I have to say is be careful. First of all, from your original post when you broke up, you mentioned that she cheated on you before. Then, when you guys got back together, after some time, she broke up with you and said she needed her "space". Then, she immediately started dating another guy. These are big red flags, as far as I'm concerned. Personally, I think that you are going way too fast. You shouldn't have slept with her right away. Have you two discussed why she left you in the first place? Have you discussed her issues about the relationship? Most importantly, have you expressed your needs, wants, issues, etc? It's great that she is back in your arms, but as Art Critic mentioned, it looks like your are the rebound from the rebound, if that makes any sense. Take it slow. Don't jump right into this until you resolve your issues. Otherwise, you are back to square one. Unless, she has truly convinced you that she wants to be exclusively with you and you have ironed out your problems, I say go for it. Take care and good luck!!
Author Ruff Ryder Posted January 6, 2006 Author Posted January 6, 2006 Well all went well and still seems to be going well. However i have just dicoverd that she is still seeing someone and we are just a causal thing. Thats not really the issue we not together so i have nothing to say about it but she lied once again and said that there was noone in her life. Now it comes to me saying sorry to all of you who have been so supportive and gave me the right advise from the word go. NC is what is going to happen and thats the way it will stay. Im young and successful and i really dont need this in my life. Like all of you told me many a times. So thanks for the advise and the help and i will from now really make an effort to take it in rather than read it and let it go. So to Tanya its a swift goodbye (she even e-mailed me today to tell me the dogs miss me and so does she) but all that said what can one belive from some one who has spun a web of lies? "to love is easy but it aint easy to walk away" Def leppard- miss you in a heart beat. So Its time to move on and rebuild. There is anothe girl only issue is she has a 14month old baby boy. One thing leads to another how is Tanya supposed to know what she is missing out on if im always arround? So like i said time for goodbye is now. I will be needing a lot of support and help but after the rain there is sunshine again. THANKS A MIL GUYS
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