In Sync Posted December 31, 2005 Posted December 31, 2005 I am the type that sees the New Year approaching as a clean slate..I won't say the past is over and done with and forgotten..but I do see the upcoming year a clean page to create new memories and not to be ruled by my past hurts and disappointments but to look at them and learn from them. It's dawning on me that as much as I didn't like my lesson and the price I had to pay, all the heartache and loss, had I not gone through it...I would still be in the box..In a weird way all the chaos has lead me to reexamine my bad habits, looking at the part of myself I've been neglecting most... my self esteem. The pain of loss left me devasted and literally on my knees and through much guidance and support and inner reflection I'm walking again. The lesson has indeed been the lesson!
lost/found? Posted December 31, 2005 Posted December 31, 2005 I totally agree. In a weird twisted way my break up has been a blessing in disguise. I still hurt and feel as though i am missing a big part of my life. However had my girlfriend of 5 years not broken up with me I would still be doing drugs and not realizing my full potential. A bittersweet situation to say the least. I look back and i do have regrets, i know i cannot change what i have done and am willing to learn the lesson even if it's a hard one. Who knows what the new year will bring, i realize had this not happened my year of 2006 would be completely laid out for me, now i have the option to do whatever i may with a solid head on my shoulders and i think the possibilities are now endless. " when one door of happiness closes another opens, but often we look so long at the closed door we do not see the one that has been opened for us" Words to live by for many of us here on LS
JS17 Posted December 31, 2005 Posted December 31, 2005 I am the type that sees the New Year approaching as a clean slate.. Me too but I'm trying to forget what happened yet keep the lessons learned. I'm sure I'll be taking the baggage with me but I still will try to use it as an opportunity to start my life over. I can't do anything about taking my family members health problems or my own with me. I will try to leave both breakups behind, I'm no longer speaking with either and will do my best to keep it that way. I'm going to start looking for a new job doing something I love instead of sitting every day at a job that I hate. 2005 was a huge year for me in a bad way, I want to make 2006 just as big a year but in a good way.
scobro Posted December 31, 2005 Posted December 31, 2005 " when one door of happiness closes another opens, but often we look so long at the closed door we do not see the one that has been opened for us" So true very well said.
Zetter Posted December 31, 2005 Posted December 31, 2005 2005 flat out sucked with my wife leaving. However, I truly didn't know how bad things were between us, and even though I was giving our relationship everything I had, and thought I was happy, I didn't realize I hadn't gotten anything in return in 2 years. I believe now what every single friend I had has been telling me for 5 months now, and that is I will be so much happier when I find someone who respects me and who is caring and understanding. For a long time after the separation, I found myself missing the "good" parts of her, which were nothing more than superficial...things like how she dressed, or how we liked to play team sports together. I overlooked her flaws such as how everything was my fault, and how she never took responsibility for her own actions, and how she never really loved me. Sure, I'm sad and still miss her, but understanding her and how her inability to ever truly care for me has left me knowing that I dodged a bullet. Her leaving was inevitable, and I'm grateful that she chose to do it now rather than wait until we had kids and real assets to deal with. I'm really looking forward to 2006, because it couldn't be worse than '05! Happy New Years everyone. Z
chocolate_boy Posted January 1, 2006 Posted January 1, 2006 Here's to that! Saw my ex who broke up with me three months ago out last night, she was with some tall ugly guy, walked straight past me and didn't even notice me. I was with three hot girls lol Felt quite good actually, I felt no desire to talk to her or anything. Here's to 2006!!
Woggle Posted January 1, 2006 Posted January 1, 2006 2006 will be a continuation of all the great things that happened in 2005.
taylor3205 Posted January 1, 2006 Posted January 1, 2006 I do know one thing. I wont br focuising on my ex half as much in 2006 as I have been in 2005. In fact not allways a quarter of what I did. Will allways stay with me, not the hurt (I hope) but the memories. Im staerting to get used to the idea. Met a few knew friends over xmas (even tho I was blottord for most of it) and Im actually starting to build a new life that does not include my ex, slowly but surely. And I dont allways go into a physcotic rage when I think of him with his new SO, so must be getting better. Onwards and upwards. Dreading the day I see him, but then again, might not be as bad as I think it will be. I have no desire to get back with him, I miss him, but I dont want him back. I hate him and love him at the same time.
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