blinkjb Posted December 31, 2005 Posted December 31, 2005 well im currently in a messed up situation!!! ive been with my girl for almost three years, for the first 2 years we were perfect. and then she started college and about three weeks in her dad quit his job and i stopped seeing her as much because her dad is over protective!!! and about the same time this guy asks her if he can walk her to her car!!! so she says yes and sure enough acouple days later they go to starbucks!! and well she starts seeing him more and more or on tuesdays and thursday. when they had class. and i start to notice shes fading away from me day by day and i ask whats wrong she said nothing.. so the next night i took het to work and someone called her but she declined it so i took her phone from and i saw his name and i questioned her about it!! and she said it was someone she had met her freshman year in high school which i know is bull**** but i dropped it!!! and the county fair was going on at the time and she said she was gonna go with her girl friends so i said ok go have fun babe!!! and i call her while shes there to let her know im going to my cousins house and i heard a guy ask whos that so i call her again and she doesnt answer it!! later that nigh she admits she went him!! well to make a long story short she messes up again by going out with him like 5 more times and lieing to me about it!!! well i made a myspace o have something to do during those times when all you do is think about them i would even clean my room and make it a mess everyday just to keep busy!!! well she eventually came back to me and she made a myspace for both of us i thought i was cool that she was trying to let me know that the messed but shes back well everything was ok up until today 12/30/05..i had told a friend in hawaii about it and she requested us to be a friend and my girl asked me who she was and i told her.. and that girl had me on her top 8!! and my girl recognized a drawing that i had as my pic and she looks through it and she finds that it was mine!! now shes all mad because i had one and i kept it from her...but then i brough up thats shes 3000 miles away from us...and its nothing compared to what she had done!! and then she says we werent together when she was talking to him. so i say well i wasnt with you when i made it!! and then she adds him on there!!! and i dont know what to do should i keep trying to be with her!!! or was i to forgiving for what she did and now that she added him should i call it quits??? please help me out!! andif possible i would like to here from both point of views! thank you!!!
Kengne II Posted December 31, 2005 Posted December 31, 2005 Lemme guess... you're both in your 20s? I dare even venture... your gf is b/t 20-22? And just started college? Classic textbook example of the "it's-not-you-it's-me-because-i'm-young-and-I-need-to-explore" syndrome in its initial stage. First off all - you need to drop this flakey girl, FAST. The fact that she was semi-dating homeboy X while you guys were apparently together is a big flaming red flag of Hellllllllllllllllllll NO!! Unacceptable behaviour. Whatever you allegedly did in comparison (which I'm still not too sure abt bcuz that section of your post is confusing)... is like peanuts compared to her trangressions. She is using that as an excuse to hurt you back by adding homeboy X to her friends list. IMO - you should dump her fast a$$ fast - before she gives you the 'Dear John' letter or worse the "I Need Space' speech. K.
Author blinkjb Posted December 31, 2005 Author Posted December 31, 2005 Lemme guess... you're both in your 20s? I dare even venture... your gf is b/t 20-22? And just started college? Classic textbook example of the "it's-not-you-it's-me-because-i'm-young-and-I-need-to-explore" syndrome in its initial stage. First off all - you need to drop this flakey girl, FAST. The fact that she was semi-dating homeboy X while you guys were apparently together is a big flaming red flag of Hellllllllllllllllllll NO!! Unacceptable behaviour. Whatever you allegedly did in comparison (which I'm still not too sure abt bcuz that section of your post is confusing)... is like peanuts compared to her trangressions. She is using that as an excuse to hurt you back by adding homeboy X to her friends list. IMO - you should dump her fast a$$ fast - before she gives you the 'Dear John' letter or worse the "I Need Space' speech. K. hi there im not to sure if im doing this right but hopefully im replying to you!! im sorry its confusing!!! its just a long story and i wanted to cut it short!! thank you for you comment though i really appreciate it!!! well actually i find myself real bored right now!! and as happy as i can be shes still lingering around in my head what should i do to keep her out?? do you think she worth trying?? i know she added him as friend to piss me off and hell it worked!! but how do i show her that im over her, i know she thinks she has me well thats partially true but i want to get rid of her so bad i cant stand this pain!! and i know i deserve better ppl tell me that all the time!! i understand why shes mad but do you think she over reacting??? well thank you for your time!!!
l13578920001 Posted January 1, 2006 Posted January 1, 2006 First of all let me tell you yes, yes she is overreacting. This is some chick in Hawaii. Who cares. Do you live in Hawaii, no Who cares. She is just trying to justify the way she treated you. That is it. You are afraid of being lonely, welcome to the club. This chick sucks honestly. I know for me the most important thing is trust. You cannot trust her can you? I am sorry you should break up with her. It is gonna hurt. I am hurting right now. (Look at my post) But you do not want to keep dating a girl like this do you. To help you get through this you can either do two things, surround your self with friends that are girls. That cures things real quick. Or, go to the gym and dedicate yourself to looking better. Both will make you feel a lot better. And please keep busy,
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