BUTAFLY Posted December 30, 2005 Posted December 30, 2005 Whatever You Fight To Get ..... You Will Fight To Keep.
whichwayisup Posted December 30, 2005 Posted December 30, 2005 Interesting post. For me personally, if you have to FIGHT hard to have someone in your life and FIGHT hard to keep them in it, is it really worth all the energy? Isn't it exhausting and draining? Love is supposed to be easier, not something you have to fight for on a daily basis. Just my 2 cents... 1
JayKay Posted December 30, 2005 Posted December 30, 2005 I agree. I don't believe in 'fighting' for someone. If they don't want to be with me, or are too wishy-washy to make up their own damn mind, then I don't want them.
mopar crazy Posted December 30, 2005 Posted December 30, 2005 Interesting post. For me personally, if you have to FIGHT hard to have someone in your life and FIGHT hard to keep them in it, is it really worth all the energy? Isn't it exhausting and draining? Love is supposed to be easier, not something you have to fight for on a daily basis. Just my 2 cents... Agree. I never had to fight for my H, but when he had his A I did. The fight for him between him and the OW was just stupid so I finally stopped and went on w/ my life. I was waisting my time w/ both of them. I knew eventually he would come crawling back to me anyhow so why waist the time or energy trying to fight to get him back?
Sami_D Posted December 30, 2005 Posted December 30, 2005 Whatever You Fight To Get ..... You Will Fight To Keep. Thank you, Solomon. Can you provide examples..?
newbby Posted December 30, 2005 Posted December 30, 2005 butafly is not being judgemental and is giving advice with the best of intentions. 1
Sami_D Posted December 30, 2005 Posted December 30, 2005 butafly is not being judgemental and is giving advice with the best of intentions. Advice to do what..? advice to whom..? Maybe s/he could be in the BS section?
newbby Posted December 30, 2005 Posted December 30, 2005 well she is warning ow away from mm or to get out of relationships. it may not be applicable to every situation but she is doing so with the best of intentions, and she is not being judgemental, so i found the sarcasm a little harsh.
Sami_D Posted December 30, 2005 Posted December 30, 2005 Sorry you found the sarcasm a little harsh. But I find it a little pointless that people come here with their little words of wisdom when HEY not ALL of us are idiots. And why the h*ll should we have to sit here listening to it? As I said... the ones fighting seem to be mainly the BS... so go over to Infidelity and drop some pearls.
newbby Posted December 30, 2005 Posted December 30, 2005 well i agree that sometimes the advice given by do gooders can be patronising.
My_Other_I Posted December 31, 2005 Posted December 31, 2005 Sami_D, why are you so angry? Each post of yours I come across seems to be written with sarcasm and anger. I'm sorry you are hurting, but why hurt others for no reason? I hope you feel better soon. Hugs:love:
Sami_D Posted December 31, 2005 Posted December 31, 2005 Sami_D, why are you so angry? Each post of yours I come across seems to be written with sarcasm and anger. I'm sorry you are hurting, but why hurt others for no reason? I hope you feel better soon. Hugs:love: Hmm well I really can't tell you why you see 'anger' and 'sarcasm' in all my posts. Perhaps you might look up 'projection'. (written with sarcasm, if not anger) Argh... Noo don't tell me I wrote that. lol. I don't know. I haven't been even annoyed on this forum since Christmas Eve... so I have no idea. Maybe you have to get to know me or something.
Author BUTAFLY Posted December 31, 2005 Author Posted December 31, 2005 well she is warning ow away from mm or to get out of relationships. it may not be applicable to every situation but she is doing so with the best of intentions, and she is not being judgemental, so i found the sarcasm a little harsh. Some people are just a little slow. I pay her no attention.
newbby Posted December 31, 2005 Posted December 31, 2005 well i wouldnt say sami was slow at all. i can see her point about patronising comments disguised as advice. i think that you were just intending to be helpful though, thats all.
Leid Posted January 1, 2006 Posted January 1, 2006 I don't see that she's slow, either.... sounds more like frustration. I also read that initial post as a bit patronizing, like someone who was driving and got in a bad car accident and is now warning every motorist to drive carefully... Some people are just a little slow. I pay her no attention. 1
Author BUTAFLY Posted January 1, 2006 Author Posted January 1, 2006 when i first read that comment I never thought of it as negative or patronising. This is the first time its ever been taken that way. I guess just like if someone put a glass of water in front of you and ask is it half full or half empy....It depends on the person looking at it. and that comment goes for anything in life ..not just relationships.
newbby Posted January 1, 2006 Posted January 1, 2006 i suppose butafly, it is just the simplistic message and it could be taken as patronising esp if you have had enough of really patronising comments, which you do get a lot of in here. you were only trying to be helpful though and i dont think it deserved any attacks, mind you i already knew that you had been in an ow situation when i read it. i mean some people didnt actually GET what the message meant so it cant have been that patronising.
cherrie498 Posted January 1, 2006 Posted January 1, 2006 Just Remember This... Whatever You Fight To Get ..... You Will Fight To Keep. HOW TRUE IS THIS!!!!!!!!!!!!! HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!
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