basil67 Posted May 26 Share Posted May 26 (edited) 19 minutes ago, BaileyB said: basil asked you why you seek the opinion of others and you respond to her question by asking for her opinion… 🤣🤣🤣 Actually @happyhorizons is not the OP, so even more reason that this is a strange question to ask me.....unless HH and PetrolHead are one and the same??? Edited May 26 by basil67 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
justwhoiam Posted May 26 Share Posted May 26 (edited) I haven't read all the posts, but it looks like you have it all figured out from a single point of view. What kind of neurological problem did you have? Is it still there, or has it gone away? Could it come back? Consider the following points: 1. No control over anything. You're being misled if you think you can ask or demand in a D/s setting where you are the sub. You won't be in control. As a submissive, your needs and desires are entirely secondary to your "Domme". A scene is not yours to end, an orgasm is not yours to have, and your body is not yours to control (other than pre-established limits). It's mainly about controlling or dominating you through speech or some tools that will limit your physical movement, often involving the sub's humiliation. Hence, most professional Dommes won't give you any handjob, won't be attracted to you in any way, and won't be pleasing you sexually. So you are in the realm of your own dreamy world there. Maybe you just need a bossy partner taking the lead and tying you up. 2. Deception. You figured your girlfriend will never find out. You are just assuming. But what if she one day asks: have you ever paid anyone for a sexual act? Then you'll have two options: either lie or tell the truth. If you're going to lie, you'll have broken the trust between the two of you and you might also have to deal with a sense of guilt for the rest of your life. If you tell the truth, she might want to dig deeper and know when that happened. And the rest might not turn out as you expected. There's a chance she might want to end the relationship with you. And you'll have to start all over again finding a new girlfriend. And it's not guaranteed that you'll find one. Yes, there's a chance she won't find out, but just know one thing: she WILL find out if she sets her mind to it. 3. Turn-on factor. Despite the fact that you're trying to convince yourself there won't be any touching, you're going to get aroused by what this paid woman will do to you anyway, which is nonetheless the power she has over you (and that's going to lead to you touching yourself). That memory will be real, not a fantasy anymore. And you'll be able to retrieve that memory whenever, both alone and while with a sexual partner. So yes, it might affect your future with a partner in ways you've never considered. 4. Lack of complicity. It looks like you decided to leave your partner out of your fantasy because you know she won't approve or accept your "itch". This means you know or assume there's no complicity between the two of you. However, that's an important quality for a lifelong or long-term relationship. How can you share your likes and dislikes, fears, dreams, and aspirations if you're scared of being judged by your partner? 5. Feeling like indulging. If you end up enjoying the experience, you'll feel like doing it again. Also, if you have a sub personality, you're naturally more prone to giving in. So you keep claiming it'll be a one-time thing, but you can't really know that now. You'll know for sure after the experience, from which there's no going back. If you're going to develop a dependency, that will impact your finances and your future with any long-term partner. Advice: Maybe write your own will, as some actions you described can end badly and occasionally lead to death. It was recently in the news that two girls died during the same session, and the dom was experienced. He ended up in prison. Edited May 26 by justwhoiam 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted May 26 Share Posted May 26 Trolls are getting very creative these days. Entertaining read, in any case. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
justwhoiam Posted May 26 Share Posted May 26 2 hours ago, ExpatInItaly said: Trolls are getting very creative these days. Entertaining read, in any case. Are you saying the OP is a troll? Quote Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted May 26 Share Posted May 26 20 minutes ago, justwhoiam said: Are you saying the OP is a troll? I’m quite sure it’s not a real post and the OP is having a bit of fun winding up posters, yes. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted May 26 Share Posted May 26 29 minutes ago, ExpatInItaly said: I’m quite sure it’s not a real post and the OP is having a bit of fun winding up posters, yes. Yes, their previous post was also about what they could get away with while dating the woman he's not dating Quote Link to post Share on other sites
BaileyB Posted May 26 Share Posted May 26 11 hours ago, basil67 said: Actually @happyhorizons is not the OP, so even more reason that this is a strange question to ask me.....unless HH and PetrolHead are one and the same??? Lol, I thought it was OP 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Lyla1 Posted May 27 Share Posted May 27 (edited) If it isn’t bad, just ones, so beneficial and it’d heal you. Why don’t you tell your girlfriend first? It wouldn’t be cheating if you have an open relationship, with rules that allow you do that. Edited May 27 by Lyla1 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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