blind_otter Posted December 30, 2005 Posted December 30, 2005 News at 11. Everyone has done this. I think. Well, most people. I got drunk and hooked up with someone that I work with. I am now very embarassed about this. I normally try not to mess around with co-workers, but you know. I'm vulnerable right now. It's so icky. I have to see him again at work and I'm so not attracted to him any more. It was weird. We had all this sexual tenstion between us but when it got right down to it, I was NOT into it. I'm not interested at alllllllll. No way. So. I am a novice at this. I've never been in a situation like this before. Normally if I have this happen I just never talk to the person again. But I have to talk to him. Advice?
Walk Posted December 30, 2005 Posted December 30, 2005 OMG, I've done this. The guy I worked with I didn't have to see too often, but he made up tons of excuses to come to my area and talk to me. I was so uncomfortable. I tried to play it cool, but I think my cheeks were as red as beets. I was so embarrased and uncomfortable. But I realized that I am an adult. I do have sexual needs, and I was vulnerable at the time too. I was direct and honest with him about future dating, but I did try to be nice about it. I think it's worse to lead someone on. One clean quick pain is easier to take then a long drawn out lie. I liked the guy as a person, but absolutely no sexual attraction for him at all. I still see him around occasionally, and he actually seems more nervous around me then I am around him now. Anyway... don't be embarrased. Your an adult, and it was a mistake. You'll have to handle it like an adult, which means no running away and hiding when you see him. It'll just make it worse and drag it out for both of you.
bluechocolate Posted December 30, 2005 Posted December 30, 2005 Been there - done that. My tactic was pretend it never happened and lucky for me that worked. It was awkward for a few days in the office but things settled nicely. That may not have been the most mature way to deal with it but lucky for me it seemed as if we both didn't want to discuss it. But I have to talk to him. Advice? Sugar coated honesty. He may be feeling exactly the same way.
Art_Critic Posted December 30, 2005 Posted December 30, 2005 What Bluechocolate said is how I would handle it.. Good advice..
whichwayisup Posted December 30, 2005 Posted December 30, 2005 Been there too. Don't discuss it at all. Trust me, that is the BEST way of handling it. And life will get back to normal... BUT... If he approaches you and wants to talk about it, then tell him it was a one time thing and it would be best if you two just stayed friends, nothing more.
Author blind_otter Posted December 30, 2005 Author Posted December 30, 2005 Ah, thank God! I feel immensely better. My pattern of avoidance is now coming in handy. Thanks everybody. Yeesh. Thank God I swore off drinking.
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