LittleMiss Posted December 30, 2005 Posted December 30, 2005 Okay, I don't know how many of you have been here long enough to know my story. Well, me and my bf have been together for over a year. It started off as a OW relationship. He ended up leaving his wife and 3 months later moved in with me. We have been together ever since. We have had our rough spots, like all couples, but now we are fine. Anyways, recently I found out that his wife has been reading all the text messages that we send to each other. When they got their cell phones, they got them together & I think a family plan. Well, they still have it like that and he just gives her money for the bill. I was just wondering how it is possible that she is reading all his text messages. I mean we have sent some things to each other that we would not want her to see. Can anyone help me understand how she did this?
Art_Critic Posted December 30, 2005 Posted December 30, 2005 Each phone has it own number.. so no she cannot read his text messages unless she has access to his phone.
Author LittleMiss Posted December 30, 2005 Author Posted December 30, 2005 isn't there a way to do it online if you're sharing a plan? I mean she doesn't have access to his phone physically, but she does have access to view his phone details online.
Art_Critic Posted December 30, 2005 Posted December 30, 2005 I know you can send text messages online but I don't know if you can receive them.. I don't think you can.. By the way.. Who cares ? Does he worry about it ? He lives with you.. what does it matter ? If it bothers you that much have him change his service. thefact that he is still sharing a phone plan with her would bother me more than if she can read the text msgs
Walk Posted December 30, 2005 Posted December 30, 2005 If it's Sprint, then there's no way she can read the text messages. (I've tried. ) Doesn't matter if it's a shared plan or not. She can't read the actuall message. It'll tell you how many were sent, but not to what number, or what the text contained. However, she can access picture mail sent or recieved, and video's, through the online area. Ask your bf to check on line, and see what he can find regarding his service providers website, and information it contains. That'd be the surest way to find out. I don't think it's cost effective for them to list those though. Just the amont sent. I think she's pulling your leg, and she's close enough in her suspicions that it sounds like she knows what she's talking about. That'd be my guess. Your bf will have to take a stand and cancel his family plan. Have him give her a heads up, a deadline. I'm embarrased to admit this, but my exH had my phone on a family plan, and I wouldn't switch over after we divorced. Mostly because I didn't have any money, and I was paying for his health insurance. But I was also just being lazy, and wanted to "stick it to him". I must've racked up hundreds calling people over minutes. She won't switch over by herself because she'll want to keep that tie to him. He'll have to cancel it and pay the fee, if he doesn't want this to continue forever. (she'll milk it. trust me.)
justagirl1121 Posted December 30, 2005 Posted December 30, 2005 OK i work for a cell phone company. there's no way to actually read anyones txt msg unless its off the phone itself adn it hasnt been deleted. online or on the bill it only shows the number of txt sent and rec'd. also, even in the billing system, there's no way for a rep to read someone what the msg was. It's just the same as voice calls. voice and txt is not recorded. (imagine all the space that would need to be saved if everyones voice and text were recorded into a database? something would surely blow up! so ther'es no need to worry about her having read any of his txt.
Walk Posted December 31, 2005 Posted December 31, 2005 Anyways, recently I found out that his wife has been reading all the text messages that we send to each other. How'd you come to this conclusion then? The exwife? or the boyfriend? I think my suspicions would be raised if word of everything you two say to each other is getting back to the ex.
Candied-Heart Posted January 8, 2006 Posted January 8, 2006 thefact that he is still sharing a phone plan with her would bother me more than if she can read the text msgs Totally agree. That's shady! Your bf will have to take a stand and cancel his family plan. Have him give her a heads up, a deadline. .. She won't switch over by herself because she'll want to keep that tie to him. He'll have to cancel it and pay the fee, if he doesn't want this to continue forever. (she'll milk it. trust me.) I agree completely with this also.
BlacknessOfSleep Posted January 9, 2006 Posted January 9, 2006 I swear it has to be possible. My brother moved out of my father's house six months ago, yet somehow he knows everything that my brother and I say to each other, word for word (yet NEITHER OF US TALK TO HIM - BAD TERMS). My father's new wife #3 has a sister AND a sister in law that work for the cell phone company we all use and only since he got married has this issue arisen. It MUST be possible!!!!
justagirl1121 Posted January 10, 2006 Posted January 10, 2006 It's not possible with verizon. don't you think that goes against privacy laws? Trust me, it's not possible. The only thing the billing system records is that each phone number is assigned to an ESN (electronic serial number) that each phone is programed with. So esn 1 sends a text message to esn 2 and esn 1's information travels thru the switching house and to the tower, blah blah, thru another switching house, etc to the second esn on the network...(or whatever network it may be on) and that person receives the txt in the form of words on their handset. when the txt is sent between the phones its recorded as numerical data, ie, as the number of txt messages/picture messages/phone calls sent in a month. i'd wonder where their really getting their info.
mini696 Posted January 10, 2006 Posted January 10, 2006 Its not possible. Sounds like you BF is talking to people behind your back.
Author LittleMiss Posted January 12, 2006 Author Posted January 12, 2006 Let me explain why this is true. I sent him a text when he was at the store to pick me up some tampons. This is not something he go and tell anyone since he really didn't want to in the first place. Well, he went over to get a x-mas present from his kids and she confronted him about the text saying that he never did that for her when they were together. So, somehow she was abel to read the message.
Art_Critic Posted January 12, 2006 Posted January 12, 2006 Believe what you want.. you have someone who works at a cellular company telling you that it isn't possible.. Think about it.. privacy issues.. They have access to the phone then they can see the text.. otherwise they cannot..
littlekitty Posted January 12, 2006 Posted January 12, 2006 A_C is right. There's no way unless she's reading them on his phone. Perhaps there's something more shady going on? Could he be showing her his phone, and then telling you something else to cover up?
Author LittleMiss Posted January 13, 2006 Author Posted January 13, 2006 Now that I have more info on the situation I have another question. The x-mas gift from his kids was a new cell phone. So do you think she programed his phone before he received it and was able to read his messages. This is the only other possibility. There is no possible way that she would have access to his phone other than when they made the switch.
justagirl1121 Posted January 13, 2006 Posted January 13, 2006 Ok, doesn't matter if she got him the phone. each phones serial number has a 10 digit phone number.....there can BE ONLY ONE PHONE PER PHONE NUMBER. (for example, if you had two phones on one phone number and soeone called that phone number, it wouldnt know on which phone to ring...or it'd ring both, but who would answer the call, you know, its just not possible) ONLY THE PERSON WHO PHYSICALLY HAS THE PHONE CAN READ THE MESSAGES SENT TO THAT PHONE NUMBER. THE ONLY WAY SHE WOULD HAVE ACCESS TO READ THOSE MESSAGES IS IF THE ORIGINAL SENDER SENT THE MESSAGES TO HER AS WELL OR IF HE IS PASSING THEM ONTO HER. IT'S NOT SOMETHING THAT IS AUTOMATIC OR CAN BE SET UP TO BE AUTOMATIC. IT'S A MANUAL FUNCTION EACH TIME. I don't mean to yell. I just can't stress it more. Call into customer service or tech support and ask them if you need more assurance. Either this is a troll post as i've learned exist....or there's something really shady and you might want to figure out what your man is up to.
Candied-Heart Posted January 16, 2006 Posted January 16, 2006 I sent him a text when he was at the store to pick me up some tampons. This is not something he go and tell anyone since he really didn't want to in the first place. Well, he went over to get a x-mas present from his kids and she confronted him about the text saying that he never did that for her when they were together. So, somehow she was abel to read the message. OR maybe when he was over there receiving his present from his children, the bag he had the tampons in for you was just propped up in sight of the Ex wife? So she made the correct assumption based on this? Or was this a totally different day in which he went to the store for you and got the gift from his kids?
magda Posted January 16, 2006 Posted January 16, 2006 Yeah, she probably read it on his phone when he was over there. Maybe he left it on the counter and left the room or some such thing. What does HE say about this? Is he wondering about this, too?
Author LittleMiss Posted January 17, 2006 Author Posted January 17, 2006 It was on two different days, and yes he is wondering about this too. He still has no idea how she knew about the message.
dgiirl Posted January 17, 2006 Posted January 17, 2006 maybe someone saw him picking up the tampons and it got back to the wife? Why do you care? Unless you are plotting her demise, let her snoop. She's only hurting herself anyways. And havent you done enough to her already? Let her be.
Author LittleMiss Posted January 17, 2006 Author Posted January 17, 2006 Look guys I'm sorry to be dragging this on. It's just very creepy thinking that she is invading our privacy and who knows what else to has read or picked up on. I just don't like feeling like I have to watch my self. I have not even sent him one text message since I found out about this.
Mz. Pixie Posted January 17, 2006 Posted January 17, 2006 Maybe she's having him followed to bust him with the adultery in court or has his car bugged?? I've heard of people having recorders under their seats, voice activated.
Candied-Heart Posted January 18, 2006 Posted January 18, 2006 I have not even sent him one text message since I found out about this. Haha. Maybe that's what you should do. Send a fake text message, with something slightly crazy inside and wait to see if it gets back to her. Mention nothing of this elsewhere and wait and see..
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