dapperdell Posted April 27 Share Posted April 27 I have some pretty nasty anxiety/related mental-health disorders, which I think is playing a role in all of this. That said, the other day my male friends and I were shooting the s*** while waiting in line for something. We all started making dirty jokes (we were waiting in line for ice cream), and I wanted to contribute. This thought entered my mind ("I think this will be funny, so I should say it") first, but then I thought ("it could sound flirty/sexual"). Then I thought "well, that's how I want to sound", so I made the joke. I am bisexual, but I'm not sexually attracted to my friends. I am also happy in my relationship. I'm not sure why I'm feeling so guilty about this. I think it maybe could be the whole "I want to appear as sexual to these guys in this moment", even though it was just for a joke. Thoughts? Quote Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted April 27 Share Posted April 27 I'm not sure why you're feeling guilty either. Do you have any strategies for letting go of negative thought patterns? Quote Link to post Share on other sites
glows Posted April 27 Share Posted April 27 I don’t get it. Why did you want to appear sexual to your guy friends when you have a gf and you’re not attracted to those guys? Do they know you’re bi? Did they get the joke? How did they react? No guy/guy experiences yet? Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Author dapperdell Posted April 27 Author Share Posted April 27 9 minutes ago, glows said: I don’t get it. Why did you want to appear sexual to your guy friends when you have a gf and you’re not attracted to those guys? Do they know you’re bi? Did they get the joke? How did they react? No guy/guy experiences yet? Completely fair question. We were just all making dirty jokes, so I wanted to contribute. That was really the extent of it. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted April 28 Share Posted April 28 I think you are way overthinking things & your anxiety issues are getting the better of you. It was a joke. Everybody understood it as such. The moment passed & nobody except you had given it a second thought. Cut yourself a break & forget it. 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted May 5 Share Posted May 5 Dudes being dudes. I have seen straight guys pretend to act gay/ sexual just to be funny out in public It’s ok to contribute if the environment is just about that and nothing more. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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