In love with my client

[Getmoney]

I’m a 36 year old male personal trainer and I’m in love my client who is just 19. I’ve never openly expressed my emotions to her as I fear messing up our client/coach relationship and friendship. She is from a different cultural and religious background to me and her culture would not encourage a relationship with someone outside her culture. What do I do?

[basil67]

Naturally, you remain professional and do nothing.  Also, she is not your friend, she is your client

Edited April 26, 2024 by basil67

[d0nnivain]

Stop   You are not in love with her.  You don't even know her  & she's half your age.  You are infatuated with her.   If you want to ask her out, stop being her trainer & make your move.  

Understand these things rarely work out.  Now at 36 & 19 you may be on the same page intellectually & emotionally but as she grows & matures she will outpace you.  You are a fully formed adult.  She's on a upward trajectory.  

[Getmoney]

I’ve been training her for 18 months and we have done things outside of sessions such eating out and getting coffee so we are friends btw. Initially I never saw her that way but since this year I’ve developed feelings. I just can’t risk our professional relationship and friendship. 

Edited May 1, 2024 by Getmoney

[basil67]

4 hours ago, Getmoney said:

I’ve been training her for 18 months and we have done things outside of sessions such eating out and getting coffee so we are friends btw. Initially I never saw her that way but since this year I’ve developed feelings. I just can’t risk our professional relationship and friendship. 

Was she your friend before you started training her? 

[Wiseman2]

On 4/25/2024 at 9:11 PM, Getmoney said:

. She is from a different cultural and religious background to me and her culture would not encourage a relationship with someone outside her culture. What do I do?

Stay as professional as possible. She's not paying you to hit on her. Date outside of work. 

[MsJayne]

Young women who go for much older, (and you are much older than her), do it for one or both of two reasons - daddy issues or money, and men who go for much younger women usually do so because a junior is much easier to dominate than a mature woman. Apart from those obvious issues, if I was her parent I would see you as a predator and I'd shred your professional reputation to pieces.