Roses777 Posted April 21, 2024 Posted April 21, 2024 (edited) Tried for weeks and months to meet up with this girl. I had tried to drop off chocolates for Easter at her place and think that scared her? Fast forward.. we were chatting over Snapchat and over the phone and she added me over Facebook. I noticed only her closest friends and family are on her Facebook.. but no boyfriends or former boyfriends. I am the only guy that is on there that wanted to date her (afaik). She has since gone distant so I'm thinking she found someone new? But why does she have me on her Facebook if she doesn't intend on meeting up? Edited April 21, 2024 by Roses777
Sony12 Posted April 22, 2024 Posted April 22, 2024 Adding people over Facebook means virtually nothing. Most people don't even talk to 90% of the people on their Facebook friends list. All it usually means is that they know them. 1
Alpacalia Posted April 22, 2024 Posted April 22, 2024 Chances are she's not going to meet up with you if you've already tried multiple times. Her silence should be your answer. She added you on FB because it's easy to do and requires zero effort on her part. Just like she can "snapchat" you and converse through social media...no personal investment or commitment on her part. How do you know that you're the only "guy that wanted to date her"? Do you know her personally or have any other opportunity to be around her to actually know for a fact that she's single (or in a fb relationship for the world to see) and wants to date?
ExpatInItaly Posted April 22, 2024 Posted April 22, 2024 She wants to appear more popular and start increasing her followers? She's not suddenly interested in you, if that is what you are hoping. She would not have distanced herself from you if that were the case.
smackie9 Posted April 22, 2024 Posted April 22, 2024 She's restricted to date guys because of family values maybe? or has severe anxiety, or she doesn't trust you, or she's simply has friends zoned you. Whatever the reason, you don't spend weeks to months trying to get a date out of someone. You make a couple of attempts to go on a date, it doesn't happen you quit it and move on.
d0nnivain Posted April 22, 2024 Posted April 22, 2024 You have been talking over social media but you showed up at her house uninvited? Bad move. If she hasn't met up with you after months of you trying, you need to acknowledge that she's not interested.
FredEire Posted April 25, 2024 Posted April 25, 2024 On 4/22/2024 at 12:32 AM, Roses777 said: Tried for weeks and months to meet up with this girl. I had tried to drop off chocolates for Easter at her place and think that scared her? Fast forward.. we were chatting over Snapchat and over the phone and she added me over Facebook. I noticed only her closest friends and family are on her Facebook.. but no boyfriends or former boyfriends. I am the only guy that is on there that wanted to date her (afaik). She has since gone distant so I'm thinking she found someone new? But why does she have me on her Facebook if she doesn't intend on meeting up? How did you know where she lives if you've never met her? Dropping off the chocolates was a bit creepy. 1
Author Roses777 Posted April 26, 2024 Author Posted April 26, 2024 14 hours ago, FredEire said: How did you know where she lives if you've never met her? Dropping off the chocolates was a bit creepy. Because she gave me her dorm room # and agreed to meet up a million times, that's why. I wanted to meet her but she always would make excuses and still sent me PG or non-PG selfies. It was strange. P.S. I did reply to this before but it isn't showing up here.
Sony12 Posted April 26, 2024 Posted April 26, 2024 (edited) 17 minutes ago, Roses777 said: Because she gave me her dorm room # and agreed to meet up a million times, that's why. I wanted to meet her but she always would make excuses and still sent me PG or non-PG selfies. It was strange. P.S. I did reply to this before but it isn't showing up here. She lives in a college dorm? Are you familiar with what a college dormitory dating culture is like? There are reasons why many dorms have a rule where no members of the opposite sex are allowed in the dorms after a certain hour. Edited April 26, 2024 by Sony12
FredEire Posted April 26, 2024 Posted April 26, 2024 6 hours ago, Roses777 said: Because she gave me her dorm room # and agreed to meet up a million times, that's why. I wanted to meet her but she always would make excuses and still sent me PG or non-PG selfies. It was strange. P.S. I did reply to this before but it isn't showing up here. Ok, so she was sending you nudes but didn't even want to meet in person. Sounded like she was a bit lonely in the moment and just wanted to feel beautiful and have a bit of attention but there wasn't any real solid interest in getting to know you. Still sending chocolates is something Id reserve for someone who has demonstrated they're worth it. Next time have a few meetings and establish there's really a connection there before you start making gestures like this.
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