FredEire Posted April 17, 2024 Posted April 17, 2024 Just a general dating question here. I've noticed recently that some people I date have a habit of making jokes about blocking me or cutting me off, like discussing music or food and they say "OMG I can't believe you like X, I'm not talking to you any more", or "Oh wow I can't believe that, I think I'll have to leave". Obviously it's all in humour but it gives me a feeling sometimes that it's behaviour they're used to and have done a lot in the past. I find that my encounters with these people have often ended with blocking, deleting or ghosting as well. Does anyone have experiences with this? Is it just a throwaway joke or a red flag?
Weezy1973 Posted April 17, 2024 Posted April 17, 2024 1 hour ago, FredEire said: Does anyone have experiences with this? Is it just a throwaway joke or a red flag? Just a throwaway joke. Sort of a way to see some fun in what can be the struggles of dating, especially online dating. It’s poking fun of how people can seemingly ghost you for no reason at all. Kind of funny actually. You like Taylor Swift!?! Ghosted!!
Author FredEire Posted April 17, 2024 Author Posted April 17, 2024 6 minutes ago, Weezy1973 said: Just a throwaway joke. Sort of a way to see some fun in what can be the struggles of dating, especially online dating. It’s poking fun of how people can seemingly ghost you for no reason at all. Kind of funny actually. You like Taylor Swift!?! Ghosted!! Yeah if I found out my date was a Swifty I might ghost them to be honest 2
Sony12 Posted April 17, 2024 Posted April 17, 2024 (edited) Yeah it's just joking around. No different than say if two people like different sports teams they might joke with each other that they can't talk to them anymore. If any of them did end up ghosting I highly doubt it had anything to do with that joke they made. Edited April 17, 2024 by Sony12
Alpacalia Posted April 17, 2024 Posted April 17, 2024 19 minutes ago, FredEire said: Yeah if I found out my date was a Swifty I might ghost them to be honest Haha, I'd be like, there's the door: Signed, a Swiftie. 1 1 1
d0nnivain Posted April 17, 2024 Posted April 17, 2024 It's a joke. However once you date somebody if they block & sulk regularly that is a red flag.
ShyViolet Posted April 17, 2024 Posted April 17, 2024 I think it's just a harmless joke and you're really overthinking this. Unless they say it constantly, maybe then that would be a bit too much.
Alpacalia Posted April 17, 2024 Posted April 17, 2024 3 hours ago, FredEire said: Just a general dating question here. I've noticed recently that some people I date have a habit of making jokes about blocking me or cutting me off, like discussing music or food and they say "OMG I can't believe you like X, I'm not talking to you any more", or "Oh wow I can't believe that, I think I'll have to leave". Obviously it's all in humour but it gives me a feeling sometimes that it's behaviour they're used to and have done a lot in the past. I find that my encounters with these people have often ended with blocking, deleting or ghosting as well. Does anyone have experiences with this? Is it just a throwaway joke or a red flag? Ok serious now, it's a joke. Further, if someone is going to block you over music taste they can go kick rocks
Author FredEire Posted April 17, 2024 Author Posted April 17, 2024 1 hour ago, d0nnivain said: It's a joke. However once you date somebody if they block & sulk regularly that is a red flag. Yeah I mean I only ask because I've met a couple of people recently where it was a lot of "ok I'm blocking you" or "I think I'm gonna leave now". I know obviously on the surface its just a joke. Maybe just a coincidence.
Lotsgoingon Posted April 17, 2024 Posted April 17, 2024 You need to pay attention to the energy of the words and the facial expression of the person speaking the words and the tone and on and on. And you need to get more clarity at the end of a date about whether the other person wants to see you again. And you probably need to be more picky. Sounds like you want to go out again with EVERYONE!
Author FredEire Posted April 17, 2024 Author Posted April 17, 2024 31 minutes ago, Lotsgoingon said: You need to pay attention to the energy of the words and the facial expression of the person speaking the words and the tone and on and on. And you need to get more clarity at the end of a date about whether the other person wants to see you again. And you probably need to be more picky. Sounds like you want to go out again with EVERYONE! Haha I'm not really sure where you got this idea. Sometimes I have a good time but there's just a little bit of a feeling of doubt at the end of the night. There can be more obvious signs, the thread was just a question not really related to anything in particular, just a thought really.
Els Posted April 17, 2024 Posted April 17, 2024 If it's just a one-off thing, I wouldn't mind, it's just a joke. But if they made a habit of doing it regularly, I can definitely see how it would get annoying real fast.
d0nnivain Posted April 17, 2024 Posted April 17, 2024 1 hour ago, FredEire said: Yeah I mean I only ask because I've met a couple of people recently where it was a lot of "ok I'm blocking you" or "I think I'm gonna leave now". If these people you are meeting travel in the same circles they could be using the same language / making similar jokes.
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