gg-ab Posted December 29, 2005 Posted December 29, 2005 What do i do if i'm 17 and my girlfriend just told me that we should just be friends but i like her way to much to be friends and i can't stop thinking about her. all i want to do is be with her. should i just call her or ask her to hang out or just ask to start over at the whole going out thing.
johan Posted December 29, 2005 Posted December 29, 2005 What do i do if i'm 17 and my girlfriend just told me that we should just be friends but i like her way to much to be friends and i can't stop thinking about her. all i want to do is be with her. should i just call her or ask her to hang out or just ask to start over at the whole going out thing. Do nothing. Don't initiate contact. If she calls don't suggest getting together. Better yet, just don't answer. It's not a game, because you can't affect her feelings. You just need to protect yourself.
My_Other_I Posted December 29, 2005 Posted December 29, 2005 What do i do if i'm 17 and my girlfriend just told me that we should just be friends but i like her way to much to be friends and i can't stop thinking about her. all i want to do is be with her. should i just call her or ask her to hang out or just ask to start over at the whole going out thing. She has already said that she wanted to be 'just friends'. That's a clear statement that means no "starting over at the whole going out thing". If you like her too much to handle a friendship with her, you should talk to her about it and take some time off from her to heal. After few months you might find that you can be friends. Also, she might find out that she misses you and who knows what happens. Protect your heart and stay away from her for a while. It will clear your mind.
clandestinidad Posted December 30, 2005 Posted December 30, 2005 I'm sorry that youre so sad and upset about this. Its never easy, but you will start feeling better in a couple weeks. I agree that since she told you what she wants, you should leave her alone. It may not be possible to be friends with her for a few weeks, b/c you're hurt. Thats okay...these things take time. Its easier to heal when you stay away from the person.
Neptune Posted December 30, 2005 Posted December 30, 2005 As has been suggested, your best bet is no contact with this girl. That, oddly enough, gives you the greatest probablility of her wanting you. What would help is for you to get out, meet other girls and if at all possible, is for her to see you with other girls. But get out with friends and do things regardless. it would help for her to know this. There is a lot of ego involved in relationships. especially in the teen years. You make yourself most attractive to her when you are a challange. If you follow her around like a puppy dog and pledge your undying love, there is no challange in that. You look most attractive to her when you are attractive to others.
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