Satn_Rose Posted December 29, 2005 Posted December 29, 2005 My new hubby and I are working on our relationship already after less than six months. I felt so lucky finding him it just felt it was safe to love him. He had continued relationships with two of his past GF's. One was near, when I shared with him that I was not comfortable with this relationship~he stopped talking to her. The other woman lives in another state, while they have been together, most of their relationship exists on line. She has met him for several weekend flings usually when she has been married or involved with someone else! After I discovered his ex was doing everything she could to sabotage our relationship, I asked him to stop talking to any of these ex's. ~Months have passed and we were married. All seemed to be going great. All of the sudden he became more and more distant. If I asked him anything, he would ac use me of "nagging", he was on line constantly. It got to the point that once I sat beside him at the desk and just asked "so, how are you doing", and he snapped at me "What do you want now!" . She had convinced him, that I made him give up everything, to include his "friendship" with her. *Laughs* I found out they were still talking and it crushed me, I thought I was the special woman in his life. I thought he meant the wedding vows, meant not to let anyone or anything come between us. ~He promised not to speak with her ever again, and after many tears I decided to "try" again. I found the messages and found a program to decode them, and I have to admit I was not prepared for what I read. The thoughts of these conversations haunt me still. After snooping some more, we are both kind of geeks, I found more things that caused me to question his level of commitment. We began counseling. One promise he made me was to get rid of all email, chats, pics, etc of this woman and any others I felt uncomfortable with. ~I find myself snooping and I deleted the things he promised to delete for him. I have never been a jealous partner and I don't wondering if he is still keeping in touch with this woman or someone else. He seems understanding of the fact that I have to rebuild trust, but at other times, he tries to downplay the effect of this other woman on our relationship. ~~~If anyone has dealt with this before...plz let me know what you advise. ~~~Any comments/suggestions welcome!!!
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