Woggle Posted December 29, 2005 Posted December 29, 2005 Pleasde don't take this as a sign of trouble in paradise because for the most part everything thing is great but my GF does this one little annoying thing. As you all know she moved in with me about a week befopre christmas and everything is great but one thing. She leaves lipstick marks on my cups and glasses and just puts them in the sink without washing them. I got home from work today and I was wiping lipstick marks of all these glasses. I had to use a brillo on one of them. How do I address without seeming like I'm bltching at her a couple weeks after she moved in? What is a polite way to discuss these quirks. 1
Lishy Posted December 29, 2005 Posted December 29, 2005 Hide her lipstick? Well my suggestion is to say as lighthearted as you can "Hey baby, wash your glass after you have used it, I can't seem to get your lipstick off of these cups" Then change the subject and ask how her day has been or whatever comes to mind. Hopefully that will be enough for her to think about washing up after herself. You will find lots of quirks about her that annoy you, and her about you as well. How you deal with it is paramount, but it HAS to be dealt with. People have divorced over leaving the toothpaste cap off and the toilet seat up!!!!
slubberdegullion Posted December 29, 2005 Posted December 29, 2005 Lishy is right, as usual. You may want to try humour, too, to sidestep any possible offence. "Hey, babe, is your lipstick made with Super Glue? It really sticks to these glasses! Where do you keep the acetone?" Point is to make it out like it's not the biggest deal in the world, but it's enough that you noticed.
loony Posted December 29, 2005 Posted December 29, 2005 Pleasde don't take this as a sign of trouble in paradise because for the most part everything thing is great but my GF does this one little annoying thing. As you all know she moved in with me about a week befopre christmas and everything is great but one thing. She leaves lipstick marks on my cups and glasses and just puts them in the sink without washing them. I got home from work today and I was wiping lipstick marks of all these glasses. I had to use a brillo on one of them. How do I address without seeming like I'm bltching at her a couple weeks after she moved in? What is a polite way to discuss these quirks. How has she handled it before she moved in with you?
Art_Critic Posted December 29, 2005 Posted December 29, 2005 She leaves lipstick marks on my cups and glasses and just puts them in the sink without washing them. 2 things.. First just talk to her about it without being an a*..and tell her something like.. hey honey I'm having trouble getting your lipstick off the cups, Do you have a trick to get them off ?? or start to leave the glasses on the counter until she washes them herself.. see how far she takes it the other thing is that you are using the word "your".. She lives with you so now the glass and cups are just that.. the glasses and the cups not your.. That type of attitude if you can drop it will allow you to not feel upset when these little quirks show up as they will..
Craig Posted December 29, 2005 Posted December 29, 2005 Now that she has moved in with you and the goal is marriage wouldn't it be thoughtful to refer to the glasses as "our" glasses instead of "my" glasses? Thoughts Woggle? Anyone else?
Outcast Posted December 29, 2005 Posted December 29, 2005 wouldn't it be thoughtful to refer to the glasses as "our" glasses instead of "my" glasses? Yeah but a little wierd. Just say 'the' cups. Wog, haven't you got a dishwasher? This is the first 'little quirk'. You've gone out - what - about 6 months? And lived together a few weeks. I promise you that you both will discover many 'quirks'. How you deal with them and how much you allow them to disturb you will be very good clues to how well you will function as a couple.
alphamale Posted December 29, 2005 Posted December 29, 2005 She leaves lipstick marks on my cups and glasses and just puts them in the sink without washing them. just always leave the toilet seat up and you'll both be even...
whichwayisup Posted December 29, 2005 Posted December 29, 2005 hey honey I'm having trouble getting your lipstick off the cups, Do you have a trick to get them off ?? Perfect! And if she says no, or I don't know...Then take that opportunity to say, can you do me a little favour (put in pet name for her) can you wipe off the lipstick from the glass when you're done? Or just wash it? Thanks... Don't make a big deal of it. just always leave the toilet seat up and you'll both be even... That is funny.
brashgal Posted December 29, 2005 Posted December 29, 2005 Lipstick doesn't always come off in the dishwasher, I have this problem too (self-induced). I'm loyal to Dawn dishwashing liquid although any that say they cut grease should do the trick. Acetone? I don't think that would help but you could get high off the fumes....
clandestinidad Posted December 29, 2005 Posted December 29, 2005 Break up with her and find someone who doesnt wear lipstick.....like ME!!!!!
MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 Posted December 29, 2005 Posted December 29, 2005 Yeah but a little wierd. Just say 'the' cups. Wog, haven't you got a dishwasher? Dishwashers dont' get lipstick off! I've often sent my drink back at a restaurant because there was a lipstick stain on it.
johan Posted December 29, 2005 Posted December 29, 2005 Just clean the lipstick off like a good boy and shut up.
johan Posted December 29, 2005 Posted December 29, 2005 If it were me, I'd probably keep a good attitude about it, but tease her a little bit. This isn't a "let's have a talk" type of thing. Light teasing and being respectful is a great way to communicate. My previous post made me laugh. I couldn't resist. Sorry.
whichwayisup Posted December 29, 2005 Posted December 29, 2005 Just ask her to take off the lipstick before she has a drink. Or she can use a plastic cup! LOL Just kidding!
clandestinidad Posted December 29, 2005 Posted December 29, 2005 hahaha...."heres your plastic cup, little girl"....great image!
curiousnycgirl Posted December 30, 2005 Posted December 30, 2005 I'm with Brashgal - go buy the really big bottle of Dawn dishwashing liquid, it totally does the trick.
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