teethbrushes Posted December 29, 2005 Posted December 29, 2005 how do you get over someone? I'm DESPERATE to get over my ex. We are forced to see each other 2-3 times a day 8 months out of the year. He still clearly has feelings for me, but I don't know if they're enough to make him want to get back with me, they're just enough to make him act funny and awkward. When we aren't together and I'm not hearing about him, its fine. But when we are at school together, everyone talks about him and how great he is and how he's the nicest guy they've ever met. And he's made friends with all of my friends. Yes, he's soooo nice that he told me he loved me and then walked out and told me he had moved on and no longer had feelings for me after saying he wanted to marry me earlier that week. Yes...how thoughtful and kind. And now that he's interjected himself in my social circle, i'm forced to see/hear about him all of the time and he won't do anything but stare at me. Sometimes he'll talk to me, but he's always so uncomfortable. He's friends with all of his other exes, but he'd rather die than hang out with me, although he loves hanging out with all of my friends who I was friends with FIRST. I've known them for a year and a half and he's known them for four months. Its been a year since our break and I'm just sick of caring about him, but its like I can't move on for another year when I completely don't see him again EVER.
bendit Posted December 29, 2005 Posted December 29, 2005 if you are serious about this then what I would do is ask your friends to stop talking about him. if they don't then they aren't your friends. If they don't then I would get rid of those friends and find new ones. When you see him I would ignore him. Try never to look at him. All the other standard things in NC apply. Don't call email mypsace IM. And don't take any of his calls im or email. If you are SERIOUS you can start eliminating contact. Its for a year. If you don' then its going to be a long year. It sounds like this guy can be emotionally abusive. You don't need that. There is a way to slowly heal but it will mean getting serious and making changes in your lifestyle. The good news is that these changes may in fact open you up to new possibilities and take you places that you wouldn't have gone had you just kept status quo. Use this challenging time to grow and learn and to realize your life is in YOUR hands not other people's. regards
Author teethbrushes Posted December 29, 2005 Author Posted December 29, 2005 all of that is impossible. I go to a very small school, so there is NO ONE who I could make friends with who wouldn't know him, let alone an entire new group. He joined my group of friends, and they don't talk about him, but I know they hang out with him, but he would rather die than hang out with me. I really don't feel like its fair to make me make a whole new group of friends or to ask everyone to shun him. Its very unrealistic.
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