GuenChan Posted December 29, 2005 Posted December 29, 2005 Okay, I've had this main crush for several months now, and this friend of mine keeps getting between us. Recently we were at a Christmas party, and I'd pretty much given up on my crush. So I was having a good time talking to some other guys I knew. My crush would come up from behind me and say hi to whatever guy I was talking to. A little weird but whatever, I just ignored it. My controlling friend kept saying "just leave him, forget about him." I pretty well listened. We then sat outside and my crush sat beside me, striking up a casual conversation. Then my "friend" sat down and stared at him with her arms crossed, he asked her what her problem was and she just kept acting like "herself", manipulative... I suppose. Anyways, I told my crush to forget about her, that he's a great guy and I liked him. He then put his arm behind me and said he liked me to, smooth move. A little while later a guy who has a crush on me pulled me up to dance, literally yanked me up, so I danced with him for 5 seconds and wham my crush moves him out of the way and dances with me. After a while we all decide to cut the party and head out in a limo. As we're in the limo my crush kisses me, and yeah, we kinda made out. After a while I got dropped off at my place and gave my crush a hug good night. Went home, slept, woke up. The next day I hear about an interesting tidbit that happened after I got out of the limo. Apparently, my "friend" yelled at him and told him to stay away from me, and made a whole drama scene. She's done this everytime him and I get even remotely close. At first she tried to hook us up, and now she is being totally weird about it. A few months earlier I was mad at her when she started trying to control how things were going between him and I and cut off our friendship. So I gave her another chance and now she's doing this again. I have a hard time trusting how he feels about me because of her, and I think he reads that. Not sure really what to do, he doesn't know my home phone number anymore (as I moved) but knows my work number and calls there to give us work or work for us. After the "controlling one" yelled at him in the limo he's called a lot to give us work and that, daily... but when I finally had a chance to talk to him he sounded uncertain and it was just a casual conversation. In all honesty it's been a totalLY odd mix up, but I really like him, and not sure if he really likes me. There's way more story behind this, but that'd be a longer story. We just keep kinda hooking up, never slept together, and my friend keeps coming between us. How can I let him know things are cool between us, and does he really care? I need to cut her out though, that's for sure. She's like this with any guy really and said to me once before "I don't want you to have a boyfriend!" ... I mean wtf. Anyways, any advice would be appreciated.
phyrespryte Posted December 29, 2005 Posted December 29, 2005 Your friend sounds really weird. Part of me wonders if she has a crush on you? But to give her the benefit of the doubt... Has she given you any reason why you should avoid him? Like is he a scum bag with a vd? If not, you have his number right? Why don't you call him and spend some time with him without her?
Author GuenChan Posted December 29, 2005 Author Posted December 29, 2005 No, she hasn't given me a reason. She said he was a good guy before, then I admitted I really liked him, and she started to say how "fat and ugly" he was, etc. Asking me if I really find him attractive, and I do. Some people say he's a good guy, some people don't like him, but that's the industry we're in, I haven't heard anything bad from anyone else.
phyrespryte Posted December 29, 2005 Posted December 29, 2005 Well it could be that she likes him also? Maybe there was something between the two of them? That she used the premise of setting you two up to get closer to him? It's a bit odd that she would be yelling at him to stay away from you. But I'm letting my mind go crazy. I tend to be very supscious like that. Well you feel that he's a good guy, no one has said anything really bad about him...So I guess you should keep her in the dark about you and your crush. But maybe you could try to find out why she's so set against him? The fact that she's so set against him is just plain weird. But then she's like that with all the guys you like?
Author GuenChan Posted December 29, 2005 Author Posted December 29, 2005 Yeah, thing about her is that she talks about me to everyone, even after I cut her off from being my friend. She calls me freaking daily and wants to hang out daily. I mean, in all honestly she might just be a freak. I dunno if I can be her friend anymore, she's fun, but when she gets all up in my life, that ticks me off. At my B-day party she yelled at a bunch of my friends saying that she was my real friend, not them. I mean wtf. I guess in retrospect she's just obsessive. Anyways I guess I'll just try to push it forward with my crush. But me calling him, not sure if that's a good idea or not. I'm just not sure if she turned him off me completely.
Author GuenChan Posted December 30, 2005 Author Posted December 30, 2005 Well, just an update. I talked to my crush on the phone today and he actually asked me what I was doing New Years. I had no plans yet and I told him that, he then told me he didn't either. He said he'll be back Saturday, if I want to do something. So I said well if you want to do something then give me a call, and he said "I will!". So hopefully this will work out! (and he'll actually call me) The controlling friend isn't in the mix!
clandestinidad Posted December 30, 2005 Posted December 30, 2005 hahaha...yeah, best to leave the "friend" at home this time when I read this, I started thinking that this other girl sounds really selfish and jealous of you. She seems to "help" you get a guy if she thinks you cant get him...but then when it starts happening, she's mad b/c then she'll be single. She wants to have the guys, or neither of you have them....not too sure if thats someone you really want to be friends with.
Author GuenChan Posted December 30, 2005 Author Posted December 30, 2005 Yeah, everyone is telling me to forget about her and go for my crush. I've liked him for a long time now, and everyone is saying it's mutual. I never really like anyone this much, I've been so focused on my career that I kinda tried to leave this behind, but sometimes you can't fight attraction. So I'll update you all after New Years. Best of luck to everyone!
clandestinidad Posted December 30, 2005 Posted December 30, 2005 Best of luck to you too!! I hope you have a lot of fun!!!
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