confused&inneed Posted December 28, 2005 Posted December 28, 2005 So me and my bf have been dating for just over two months. and over the past two weeks i have been feeling left out when it comes to him sharing personal feelings and things that are bothering him. He doesnt share these things with me, he just tells me he doesnt want to talk about it and then he talks to his friend about it. I dont mind that he talks to his friend, i know we are new in the relationship and that friends have a better understanding of what is going on. I understand that. But he doesnt even give me an inkling of what is going on with him and that hurts me. I want him to share with me, i want him to open up to me. I feel that i dont know him any more in these past two months that we have been dating then before we started dating. I dont get it. Am i expecting to much? Am i trying to hard? i just want him to share personal things with me. confused
MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 Posted December 28, 2005 Posted December 28, 2005 You are expecting too much after only two months of dating. Let him miss you for a little while.
Author confused&inneed Posted December 28, 2005 Author Posted December 28, 2005 I can try...i'll try not to talk to him for a couple days, or not hangout for a few days....and see how that goes.....
bluechocolate Posted December 28, 2005 Posted December 28, 2005 Am i expecting to much? Am i trying to hard? At think at this point in time you are. I don't know how long you knew each other before dating but two months is not a long time. You shouldn't expect that he's suddenly going to open up & share all of his thoughts & feelings with you just because you've been dating for two months. Heck, you shouldn't even be 100% sure yet that this is exclusive! Give it more time and drop the subject with him entirely - if you pressure people they instinctively move in the opposite direction.
Author confused&inneed Posted December 28, 2005 Author Posted December 28, 2005 alright thanks....i havent talked to him about this, i just feel this way. and i didnt know what i should do, thats why i came on here to ask
targetbag Posted December 28, 2005 Posted December 28, 2005 Yeah, just see how it goes for awhile. My boyfriend has a quiet/reserved personality so I had some of the same concerns that you do early in our relationship. I found that after 3 or so months he was opening up to me a lot more, and about more and more things. Just let the relationship take it's natural course, and make sure he knows you're there for him, without pressuring him. Now, if you still have this worry after 6 months or so, I'd start reconsidering the relationship.
clandestinidad Posted December 28, 2005 Posted December 28, 2005 Relax He'll talk to you when he feels like he can trust you, he knows you wont think he's a wimp, and you wont get upset with whatever he says. And dont bother trying to convince him of these things either...its something HE will realize on his own without you telling him.
Author confused&inneed Posted December 28, 2005 Author Posted December 28, 2005 thank you targetbag, i think i will try to do that. Kat23, thanks...that makes sense and i will try not to rush him. i will try my best to pace myself and not rush him.
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