IsadoraT Posted April 1, 2024 Posted April 1, 2024 Hi, I’m in a long term relationship or situationship with a guy and it’s been driving me a bit crazy.. This last month I’ve been rather busy with work so I decided to pull back a bit and see how it feels. I didn’t make myself available for a month to see how he reacts. He kept communicating, calling and texting me every few days. We’ve been mostly platonic friends with some occasional kisses. I’m confused about him because he makes the effort to see me and continuously wants to meet up. I don’t know why I like him but feel connected and good with him. Recently I was upset and overthinking so I made my WhatsApp private and he immediately wrote to me, asking me to talk and started calling me. I feel like he’s stringing me along but don’t know why he’s doing it. Any thoughts?
Mrin Posted April 1, 2024 Posted April 1, 2024 (edited) I'll be blunt - you are your own worst enemy here. Let me get this straight. You enjoy spending time with him and feel good when you are around him. Yet you deliberately pulled back for a month. His interest in effort level stayed the same - high. Then you decided to play more games and made your WhatsApp private. And he continued to reach out using other methods to apply effort to remain connected to you. And you are now asking why he's stringing you along? Honey - if anyone is doing any stringing it is you. This guy is making genuine and continued efforts and you are playing middle school games. You need to grow up. Edited April 1, 2024 by Mrin 2
stillafool Posted April 1, 2024 Posted April 1, 2024 Are you playing a game of hard to get to see if he'll chase you to show you how much he cares? If so, stop it. That's a very ugly game and is sure to drive him away for good if he gets wind that's what you're doing. 1
Alpacalia Posted April 1, 2024 Posted April 1, 2024 Testing him by not making yourself available for a month is a poor way to evaluate the status of your relationship. If you're worried you're in a 'situationship' then talk to him about it, ask him how he feels and what he wants from the relationship.
d0nnivain Posted April 1, 2024 Posted April 1, 2024 What is it that you want? I can't tell from what you wrote. I think this poor guy is equally confused. 1
basil67 Posted April 1, 2024 Posted April 1, 2024 You need to figure out what you want and communicate it to him. And if want to be with him, make sure to communicate it soon before he writes you off
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