Lifestream Posted December 27, 2005 Posted December 27, 2005 I'm 18 and 5'4". I want to get all female opinions on height and desirability. Why does height matter so much? What other qualities do women look at that will help them look past height? I generally find myself laughing off whenever girls say I'm short. Usually saying something along the lines of "I'm big where it counts" or "I have an organ that is larger than most men" (by that I mean my heart lol). I find that humour helps a lot and the projection of security in yourself, but I still catch myself second guessing my chances with women... So women, are short men really unattractive?
SmoochieFace Posted December 27, 2005 Posted December 27, 2005 As a 5'5" male, I'm pulling up a chair for this thread... should be interesting. 1
Author Lifestream Posted December 27, 2005 Author Posted December 27, 2005 Maybe we can convert some of them
SmoochieFace Posted December 27, 2005 Posted December 27, 2005 Maybe we can convert some of them Yeah, well, let's hear the tired and worn-out excuses that women have for not going for short guys first. Ladies, I know you're out there so get in here.
whichwayisup Posted December 27, 2005 Posted December 27, 2005 It depends on the guy. If you're confident and don't care about height, then ANY woman will go for you. But, if you are insecure about your height, and possibly suffer from "short man syndrome" that will repell women. Look at Tom Cruise. Dustin Hoffman. There are afew men who are short and have women at their sides. It all comes down to comfort level with yourself. If it isn't an issue and you have alot of confidence you can get any woman you want.
SmoochieFace Posted December 27, 2005 Posted December 27, 2005 If it isn't an issue and you have alot of confidence you can get any woman you want. Uh, that's stretching reality just a tad.
Author Lifestream Posted December 27, 2005 Author Posted December 27, 2005 Hmm, that is actually very good advice. I've been thinking the same thing. I'm falling for this girl I know who's about 2 inches taller than myself, but I can get her laughing in a heartbeat And that makes me confident and happy with myself. It's true, women can smell insecurity from a mile away. But let's say for a second you're faced with a decision. The confident tall guy or the confident short guy. What other characteristics will influence your decision?
whichwayisup Posted December 27, 2005 Posted December 27, 2005 Uh, that's stretching reality just a tad. Uh, I don't think so. I know afew men who are short and had NO problems getting women. I worked with one of them. Very funny guy, and really nice too. So I guess it just depends on the person.
whichwayisup Posted December 27, 2005 Posted December 27, 2005 Hmm, that is actually very good advice. I've been thinking the same thing. I'm falling for this girl I know who's about 2 inches taller than myself, but I can get her laughing in a heartbeat And that makes me confident and happy with myself. It's true, women can smell insecurity from a mile away. But let's say for a second you're faced with a decision. The confident tall guy or the confident short guy. What other characteristics will influence your decision? As long as you are completely into her, treat her well, make her laugh and feel good - You're good to go!
SmoochieFace Posted December 27, 2005 Posted December 27, 2005 Uh, I don't think so. I know afew men who are short and had NO problems getting women. I worked with one of them. Very funny guy, and really nice too. So I guess it just depends on the person. Isolated individual cases do not make general reality. Face it, all other things being equal, women will - in general - go for the taller bloke. 1
Lil Honey Posted December 27, 2005 Posted December 27, 2005 I think a short guy has a better chance attracting a short girl. But I'm sure many of them like the same women taller men like - one with long legs.
Author Lifestream Posted December 27, 2005 Author Posted December 27, 2005 I have a type of girls I like. Girls who aren't fake
SmoochieFace Posted December 27, 2005 Posted December 27, 2005 I have a type of girls I like. Girls who aren't fake And my type of women are the ones who are down to earth and grounded in reality.
SmoochieFace Posted December 27, 2005 Posted December 27, 2005 But I'm sure many of them like the same women taller men like - one with long legs. Yeah, but most long-legged women are skinny. Definitely not my physical type.
Adunaphel Posted December 27, 2005 Posted December 27, 2005 I'm 5'4'' myself and I would not mind dating a shorter guy. But let's say for a second you're faced with a decision. The confident tall guy or the confident short guy. What other characteristics will influence your decision? I'd go for the one talking to whom I enjoyed most. 1
basscatcher Posted December 27, 2005 Posted December 27, 2005 I have been attracted to men who are 6' and taller. BUT the huge downfall to that is my back usually hurts. When tall men hug me or when walking they walk faster because they take longer strides. Taller men tend to bend me backwards when hugging me or holding me and that puts to much pressure on my low back. When dancing together taller men tend bang their knees above my knee caps and that hurts. I am attracted to a little taller guy because I can wear high heels and not feel like I am over bearing them. I don't like to feel like the dominant one. I am truthfully most comfortable with guys who are about 2 1/2 to 3 inches taller then I am. I am 5'4 1/2 and one of the taller persons in my family. I can still wear high heels and we are comfortably at the same level.. Its easier to steal a kiss and grab him for a hug when I am at a similar height. Mr. L is 5'8.. He is in the perfect height range for my height. My brother is 5'1. He has a nice body build for his height and can easily stay fit because he is proportioned. His exgf was taller then him by a little bit. Neither of them seemed to mind the height differential. I think a good chunk of the population in Northern Minnesota is kinda short anyway because of the strong french canadian heritage in this area. As for shorter people attracting the opposite sex: I do believe it has alot to do with how confident a person is. His sense of humor and how friendly and interesting he is. I only PREFER; not always, men who are a little bit taller because I think it helps a man feel better if he is at least a little bit taller then the woman because of dominace and tradional social image standards and also I do like to wear heels when I go out and I don't like towering over my partner. MHO Our media doesn't help with the height stigma. Look at the majority of models. They are mostly over 6' tall. I don't think the average person is 6' tall. I think 5'3 to 5'9 is average for men and woman...
SmallWonder Posted December 27, 2005 Posted December 27, 2005 Okay. I only read the first page of replies, so maybe I'm repeating someone else.... Short men, I believe, are on the same playing field as more average or tall guys. I am a 5'2 female, and anyone over that is taller than me, so who am I to judge. I have dated both short and tall, been attracted to both short and tall. Also...I'm not sure if having a come back like, "I'm big where is matters most" is very appealing. Don't do that. And many times when I girl says like, "Oh - you're short!" that's like her way of saying, "Oh - you're so cute!" without being obvious. And I know, I know, guys don't like to be called adorable or cute, but let me tell you - it's NOT a bad thing. I can be turned on by a guy who is cute and adorable, let me tell you. Any guy can make your panties wet - who cares how tall he is? Act tall and stop talking about being short. My friend Jennifer is a model and is over 6'0 tall. Her fiance is probably 5'5 on a good day. I notice that she has dated shorter men. So there.
johan Posted December 27, 2005 Posted December 27, 2005 And my type of women are the ones who are down to earth and grounded in reality. "Down to earth" and "grounded in reality" are just euphemisms for "down here with me at my short level" right?? Ha ha. Just kidding. I'm just 5'7". The heights of my girls have been as follows: 5-4 cute rich girl 5-4 average 5-3 cute 5-6 good body, bad mind. 5-10 pretty hot, but emotional problems. 5-10 hot, athletic, crazy 5-4 super, extra, extremely hot (no joke) and obsessive. I was dating the tall girls, ironically, at a time when I was feeling most insecure. And their height didn't help at all, but it didn't seem to bother them. The second one was with a guy shorter than me before me. 5-4 is right on for me. I'd prefer no emotional problems, but that's probably too much to ask.
blind_otter Posted December 27, 2005 Posted December 27, 2005 I am small. I'm a little under 5'1". I like shorter men. 5'10/5'11 is the like maximum height. My exhusband was 5'6. The mechanics of sex work out better for me with shorter men. 1
johan Posted December 27, 2005 Posted December 27, 2005 Also, I think it's bad form for short guys to defend themselves by remarking about their dick size. And I think that short guys who do a lot of body-building are really obviously compensating. Nothing wrong with fitness. And I think that Napoleon syndrome is one of the least attractive qualities a human can have.
Yamaha Posted December 27, 2005 Posted December 27, 2005 I am 5'8" and I have dated women shorter and quite a bit taller than myself. I think whichway is correct in that if you feel you are short women will pick up on your insecurity. I used to feel short but I made up my mind that I wasn't going to let my height affect what type of women I went after and I have stayed true to my word. Some women will always take the "high" road but most will give you a chance if you give yourself the same. 1
TUDOR Posted December 27, 2005 Posted December 27, 2005 I am 6'1" and my wife is 5'1" and the height factor was never an issue for me with her being short. I think for women the height of a man has a lot to do with intitial attraction but that is as far as it gets you if you nothing else of substance to offer. Your height may limit you getting your foot in the door as easy but that just means you have to be a little more creative and show what you have offer other than height. In the end no one marries any one based on height alone.
Pyro Posted December 27, 2005 Posted December 27, 2005 I am somewhere between 5 foot 7 and 5 foot 8. I consider myself short. In my experience thus far, I have never dated anyone taller then me. Some girls have said that they would feel weird dating a guy shorter then themselves. I say that its there loss. As far as women more my size, I have not really had trouble meeting anyone. Being kind and considerate can get you a long ways.
whichwayisup Posted December 27, 2005 Posted December 27, 2005 And some men feel very uncomfortable dating women that are taller than them. I know SF disagrees with me, but it still comes down to confidence level and being comfortable with WHO you are.
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