Natalie05 Posted December 27, 2005 Posted December 27, 2005 I was dumped, hurt, pissed, etc., - spent the last 6 months working on myself (losing weight, exercising, improving myself) and getting over my ex. No word from him at all. I sent him a Christmas card as a final gesture just to show I am nice and had no hard feelings (no written message on the card other than Happy Holidays). And I went on about my way and had a fabulous Christmas and haven't really thought about my ex for the past 2 weeks - and when I did it was more like "He did me a huge favor breaking up with me - I'm too nice, I kept giving him chance after chance!". I've actually felt relieved that I'm over him and no longer miss him, etc. Then I get his email tonight.......... what surprised me was I didn't feel ANYTHING. I just read it and felt nothing............. It's over on my part - I've buried the dead. I'm over him. I sent a card to him just to be nice - he always made me out to be the bad guy. I didn't ever expect a response - didn't want one. Just wanted to show I didn't harbor ill feelings (nothing more). At one time I had hoped we could be friends but then I thought again and decided that would be a bad idea - he dumped me, why would I want to be friends with someone who treated me badly? I had just officially gotten over him and was telling myself "YEAH! I don't have feelings anymore and I'm glad we broke up - he wasn't right for me!!!".........then he emails. Why do they always come back just when you've gotten over them?
In Sync Posted December 27, 2005 Posted December 27, 2005 I'm sorry for nitpicking but how could it be 6 mnths of NC if you were sending him X-mas cards. Doesn't that imply that you've left the door open for him to come through. Why is it such a suprise that he RSVP'd? Sounds like you are still not quite over him as you claim otherwise why did you accept or read his e-mail you would have deleted it. Hey,if it's something you are not sure of throwing in the towel and saying finito to, that's something to consider and not sneeze at. But truly if you were done with him you wouldn't have sent a single greeting...why on earth would anyone need to show the person who dumped them they have no hard feelings?
Art_Critic Posted December 27, 2005 Posted December 27, 2005 Sounds like you are still not quite over him as you claim Bingo......
Author Natalie05 Posted December 27, 2005 Author Posted December 27, 2005 Unfortunately I am over him......the xmas card I sent him was a generic card I sent to about 50 other people - he didn't get anything "special" and if he read into it anything other than "happy holidays" - he's sadly mistaken. He wants sex. That's the only reason he sent me an email. Had nothing to do with the xmas card I sent over 4 weeks ago - otherwise he could have responded earlier. He popped back up now that hunting season is ending and he won't be preoccupied with family - and because he's horny. Yes I'm way over him - I have no desire to see, talk or be with him. He doesn't do it for me anymore.
Art_Critic Posted December 27, 2005 Posted December 27, 2005 Okay.. your over him... my exgf did NOT get a card.. do you know why ? Because I am over her.. Why did you send him the GENERIC card if you are over him ??
Art_Critic Posted December 27, 2005 Posted December 27, 2005 Had nothing to do with the xmas card I sent over 4 weeks ago here is what you wrote earlier today on another thread I sent him a Xmas card the first week of December (along with cards I sent everyone) then the moment Today is Dec 26 that makes it 3 weeks or less that you sent the card Which is it ???
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