SmilingMartin Posted December 26, 2005 Posted December 26, 2005 Well...i dated this girl for about 9 months...until i found out she had sex with 2 other guys. I immidiately broke up with her and a month later we became friends. I have no feelings for this girl, nor does she have feelings for me. Im realizing more and more that she doesn't treat me like a friend. I would always call her to see how shes doing. I never get that same phone..if im lucky i get a phone call from her when shes totally trashed and its only to talk about her problems. She always ends up ditching me to go drink. One time we had made plans to go walk on the beach and just talk...she called me at midnight and she was partying. Didn't even apologize or anything for totally blowing me off. I'm done with this and I was wondering...how do I approach her about it? I don't want her to think that i am evil or anything like that. It's just friends don't act this way. I want to tell her that the friendship is over but how do i do it in a nice way? Any suggestions or comments?
JayKay Posted December 26, 2005 Posted December 26, 2005 When a friendship is over, you don't need to 'approach' the person at all. Just stop calling her and trying to talk to her about stuff. Don't email, don't stop by her apartment, don't ask her friends how she's doing. In fact, act as if she doesn't exist. If she calls you when she's trashed, tell her, "Sorry, I'm in the middle of something..." and get off the phone. If she asks for an explanation at some point, just tell her, "Look, I don't think we have a lot in common any more and we should both move on." You don't need to stress over this one. Keep it simple.
phyrespryte Posted December 29, 2005 Posted December 29, 2005 Yup totally agree with JayKay. Just stop talking to her. You don't even need to answer her calls. She'll eventually get a clue.
Author SmilingMartin Posted December 31, 2005 Author Posted December 31, 2005 thanks guys for the advice...its been 3 weeks since ive last heard from her. So I guess I was the only one trying for this friendship to work. She hasnt called me once to see how Im doing....some friend huh? but seriously...thanks
travellingman Posted December 31, 2005 Posted December 31, 2005 I don't want her to think that i am evil or anything like that. Why do you care what she thinks?
EyeOfTheTiger999 Posted January 8, 2006 Posted January 8, 2006 just stop calling her and act like nothing is wrong when she does. don't make plans unless she asks and even then tell her you may be doing something - think of something you'd normally doing, like going out with other friends. she will be on your ass in no time.
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