whichwayisup Posted December 28, 2005 Posted December 28, 2005 We all still like to feel looked at and desired by others, the key is to keep that in check. Enjoy it for what it is. Be flattered that the OW wants you, but don't let it get out of hand. Focus that energy into your wife. I'll say it again, she may have said no strings, but that is crap. That is her hook to get you interested.. You're welcome! Now go find your wife and tell her you love her!!
Author confused72 Posted December 28, 2005 Author Posted December 28, 2005 whichwayisup.... Thanks.....and I realize that "there ain't nothin' free in this world"....so I realize she's just trying to bait me..... I'm going to extract myself from this "friendship" with my pen pal and put my energy into my wife. I kinda feel like this recent temptation is just like the stereotypical male desire for multiple anonymous partners......the desire to enjoy a woman only as a sex object with no emotional connection......the same desire I act on when I surf the net for porn....... I'm still not convinced human beings were born to be monogamous, I just think that we've learned to supress our desires for the sake of convention.....but those desires are still there......
whichwayisup Posted December 28, 2005 Posted December 28, 2005 You're welcome. I think at times we will have connections with others - It's just a case of not acting upon it. Temptations will always be around, it's healthy to look and have the few thoughts of fantasy. But once a committment is made it changes it all. I know I would never EVER want to start all over again. As much as at times my hubby drives me NUTS I do love him and love our life together.
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