Navajo46 Posted December 26, 2005 Posted December 26, 2005 My girl and I broke up about a week ago. I have since come to the conclusion that she did what she had to do. It still hurts and I miss her very much though. Not talking to her over christmas was unvelievably hard. I wanted to pick up the phone sooooo bad and call her. I have some things to tell her and I really wanted to apologize for some things that I did. I don't want to get back together, but she is a good person. I have been a rollercoaster of emotions in the past week, the day after we broke up I went to her place and begged and pleaded with her to take me back, to no avail. After I really thought about it, I know that this is the best thing. I just feel like I can't move on until I tell her some things now that I am more grounded, but I don't want to feel as if I am bothering her. I want to tell her that she is a good person and I understand why she left. I want to tell her that I was sorry for all of the things that I did to hurt her. There is another snag, I know that she is going back to her ex... just hurts so bad not being able to talk to her. We were together for a year and a half and through our ups and downs turned into best friends... and for me I just can't wash the slate clean that quickly. I am going to move on, but it's tough this way. So hard to just let this go. What would you do? Just not being able to wish her a Merry Christmas is killing me! Hurts thinking that she didn't even attempt to call me and wish me a Merry Christmas too.
skeptik224 Posted December 28, 2005 Posted December 28, 2005 Why don't you just send her an e-mail? I would keep it short and make sure that you don't bring up the "relationship" at all. It's ok to express what you feel. In fact, at one time or another, we all need to do that. I was disappointed that my ex of 3 months didn't contact me on X-mas, but she sent me a text the next day. My situation is a little different in the sense that we've been on an emotional roller coaster for awhile now, but still, I did have a talk with her at one point to tell her how I felt. She was receptive. Just know that if you decide to do this, do not expect a response from her. You should be sending it for your own well being - not for a response. I would type the e-mail, save it as a draft and wait a day. Then, go back and re-read it. If you still want to do it, press the send key. Good luck and keep me posted
Author Navajo46 Posted January 2, 2006 Author Posted January 2, 2006 I wrote my ex a letter telling her that I knew that she did what she had to do. I told her that I had come to terms with what had happened but that I was very sorry for all the times that I had hurt her. I also told her how much this relationship has taught me, and it really has... all of the things that I refused to look at while we were together finally I have realized. I guess it still hurts just not being able to talk to her, but I will have to move on. I realized that she and I were not meant to be together, but a year and a half is a long time for me and i just feel empty right now. I know not to expect a response from her, and writing the letter was actually pretty therapeutic for me. Just miss her.
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