gordon_gc Posted December 26, 2005 Posted December 26, 2005 Hi, My gf broke up with me 1 1/2 months ago. We spent a year together were things were great. The reasons put forward was that she needed space, independence, that her love was different but that she still wanted me in her life. I believe and admit I was a clingy bf and she definitely found herself suffocated. I did the opposite of what I should have done because instead of seeing the real problem, I was looking at the consequences of the problem. Anyway, 6 weeks went past. The last 10 days, I did NC. During that time, she tried to contact me 8 times. I never responded. Finally, for Xmas, I sent my wishes and told her I wasn't upset. she responded by saying to me she did feel I was upset but felt ok knowing I was fine and that she would call me tonight. Obviously, I know I will have to keep the conversation civil and avoid talking about relationship and any topic that might upset her or I. Today, I met her flatmate (best friend too). We talked for a bit. She didn't tell me much about my ex and I didn't ask either except for the work situation for both of them. Her flatmate is moving down to Sydney from Brisbane for a new job and she told me she is trying to convince my ex to move down with her. Obviously, I am upset about it because that would ruin any chances of us getting together again. I have improve my lifestyle, my relationship behaviour, live my life and dont rely on others like I used to which would make me the bf she wanted me to be. I know that if I have a chance to show that, It will be now but it seems in total contradiction with what everyone says in this forum. What should I do ? I know some of you will tell me that if she goes down there, it is her choice and it means she has moved on but dont you think she simply would choose that solution to convince herself she has moved on ??? Do you think I still have a chance ??? If so, what should I do ?? Should I play it cool and like I don't care or should I show her I am still here ???
Author gordon_gc Posted December 26, 2005 Author Posted December 26, 2005 By the way, if you guys and gals need more information, I am more than happy to further detail
pippen_2k Posted December 26, 2005 Posted December 26, 2005 This probably has nothing to do with what you are asking but ill say it newayz. From my personal experience when I moved city for work, I found a great burdorn off my shoulders of not having to worry about my ex. I could no longer 'run into her', and it was kinda like the final stage of accepting it was truly over. All im saying is that if she does move to Sydney, it could be a blessing in disguise for you. Chin up and hey its good to see a fellow Australian in here.
Author gordon_gc Posted December 26, 2005 Author Posted December 26, 2005 This probably has nothing to do with what you are asking but ill say it newayz. From my personal experience when I moved city for work, I found a great burdorn off my shoulders of not having to worry about my ex. I could no longer 'run into her', and it was kinda like the final stage of accepting it was truly over. In some way, that is something that scares me a lot. Her going somewhere else would mean HER final stage of breaking up with me... All im saying is that if she does move to Sydney, it could be a blessing in disguise for you. I hope so but so far, I dont see this as a good thing. Believe, I know I have to move on but still, I can't help it. I love that girl just the way she is...with her qualities and defaults. I just want a chance to show her I am a better person
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