sliz84 Posted December 26, 2005 Posted December 26, 2005 so i've been hanging around with this guy for quite some time now, and i've really grown to like him. we flirt a lot and he seems to get jealous when i go out with other guys. to this point, we've been totally platonic and he does have a girlfriend. he is not the type of guy to cheat, and i completely respect that. we hang out very often, but yesterday, we had a tiny argument and i thought we cleared things up, however now he's acting a little cool towards me. in the middle of our argument, i text messaged him saying that i didn't really know why we were fighting. he responded by saying that he did know and that he didn't know what to do about it. when i confronted him later asking what he meant by that, he brushed it off and said he didn't mean to write that. to me, it sounded like we were tense towards each other b/c we like each other but he didn't know what to do about it since he has a girlfriend. now he's acting totally different towards me and seems to be avoiding me. any ideas? what's going on here? anyone have any input?
delilah32 Posted December 26, 2005 Posted December 26, 2005 with all due respect, why would you consider a wishy washy guy who sort of does and sort of doesn't cheat on his girlfriend as a legitimate dating candidate? if you're like a lot of women, you've deluded yourself into believing somehow, he would be different, if you were in her shoes. also, we women are pitted against one another enough by social/marketing/cultural forces, so why are you joining the bandwagon by stabbing another woman in the back? this has bad news written all over it and hopefully you'll realize that now before you turn into one of the remorseful wounded seeking an emotional bandaid here on loveshack.
Author sliz84 Posted December 26, 2005 Author Posted December 26, 2005 i don't want him to cheat on her. he never has and isn't that kind of guy. but i'm fairly certain that there's something between us. i've been that woman who's been cheated on, i know how it feels. i would never want to do that to someone else. i just want to know where we stand in the event that they break up. i'm not planning on waiting in the wings, though they have been having problems lately. i just feel such a strong connection to him and i'm not ready to let it go.
LN8840K Posted December 26, 2005 Posted December 26, 2005 you are confused, you want him to leave her and be with you or you never would have posted this question ..... so don't lie to yourself, because you are the only one who believes it .... why do you want to get involved with someone who will cheat on their girlfriend , if you think you will be different then go for it
caring guy Posted December 26, 2005 Posted December 26, 2005 que sera, sera! If you like him & he choses to stay with her, there's nothing more you can do, but if there's bad vibes between them, it's looking good, just don't YOU be personally responsible for their breakup, if they do, then it's because he likes you more! But like, i'm realy one for giving advice, i just feel i owe back, to those that help me!
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