Rodeogirl Posted December 25, 2005 Posted December 25, 2005 And I have no regrets hopefully she intercepts it before he does. It was mailed on friday evening she should get it tomorrow or tuesday!!! I found out I was one of 3 by accident and I decided to tell it all!!! I lost all respect for this person ALL of it he is no longer the person in my eyes I once thought he was. The way the letter was written he has no idea which of us 3 would write it. So who gives a dam it is time his cocky world comes crashing down!!! Call me a dirty bytch but I am going into the new year clean! You guys enjoy the holidays I just wanted to come in a celebrate.
Outcast Posted December 25, 2005 Posted December 25, 2005 You realize if he has kids you will have ruined their holiday memories forever?
Phily Posted December 25, 2005 Posted December 25, 2005 I agree with the poster before me... Did his kids and wife really need to have their holiday ruined because of his infedelity and your insecurities... What's done is done.. I only hope that "some" good comes out of it all. The best of luck to you.
Author Rodeogirl Posted December 25, 2005 Author Posted December 25, 2005 Yup but it is not my fault though she would have found out some way later I just sped up the process, seems this fugger had been doing this long enough. It totally broke me down the day I discovered this so right now the sound of revenge is sweet, thing is he has no idea I know about the other women or let alone his address to even write a letter to his home. I am doing her a favor cause this fugger is having sex in his office with 3 other females on constant rotation. He just had a child with his wife in August and he thinks he is skating on ice. Well, I wanted to melt the ice and make sure he fell once and for all. I am about 75% sure his wife wont leave based on a letter. I just wanted it put out there.
Phily Posted December 25, 2005 Posted December 25, 2005 I think many of us on here at one time or another wanted to send a letter or confront our MM/MW's mate. I can also see that after finding out there were three other women... I don't know how I'd feel other than horrible.. But did you really write her the letter to HELP her or for REVENGE on him??? The answer to that makes all the difference.
Author Rodeogirl Posted December 25, 2005 Author Posted December 25, 2005 The children are too young to understand they are two years old the other is 4 months. And furthermore I am not insecure I am in fact done fugging with him altogether I have the job/career I always wanted and a new attitude with life as a whole this was the only thing bringing me down day in and day out I am happy this happend right before the new year this way my slate is clean with all this messy trash come january.
Author Rodeogirl Posted December 25, 2005 Author Posted December 25, 2005 @ Phily I wrote the letter to warn her I even thought about waiting until I knew he was out of town so I could make sure she got it before he did. I didn't say anything negative toward he rin the letter I just made sure she knew detail on when where and how he gets away with cheating. I did not name names I just told her that creeping is no longer a night time thing and that is is alive and well in the day time...and that he does it on a regular basisi in his office..etc... I told her how much of a liar he was pretty much.
Author Rodeogirl Posted December 25, 2005 Author Posted December 25, 2005 Also it was mixed in with revenge as well I mean who wouldn't wnat a little revenge after wasting over 2 years of your heart on someone who basically played you the whole time? I thought this this was the first time I felt love in my life and to find this out crushed me. I just wonder if he will think it was me or if he will just play it off like nothing is going on. But I have refused to contact him and It will be too soon if I ever see him again.
Phily Posted December 25, 2005 Posted December 25, 2005 In a way, maybe it was the best thing for you to do... If there are 3 more that you know about there may even be more. I guess the letter lets her to make her own decision regarding their marriage. The guy seems like a total scum bag and I really hope for your sake and his wife's sake (and his kids) that he practiced safe sex. Please don't think that I was criticizing you, I have a ton of my own things going on with my MW. It's great that we can all chat on here about it and helps us know we're not alone. Have a Merry Christmas!
DepressedWaiting Posted December 25, 2005 Posted December 25, 2005 I think you did the right thing. But instead of writing a letter I would have just called his wife directly. This creep is having sex with several women behind his wife's back... who knows what disease he might give his wife. How disgusting. My parents divorced when I was a kid (it's really not that horrific), I don't agree with the wife not finding out just because there are kids involved.
Author Rodeogirl Posted December 25, 2005 Author Posted December 25, 2005 Thank you Phily you have a merry christmas too!! I needed it outof my life I just didn't know when where and how it would end but I was praying that however it finally ended that I wouldn't experience alot of pain for very long. That letter was like closing a book, it had to be done he gets on the air and runs on and on about how much he loves his wife and how they are never ever divorcing etc...and how he is so in love...at first it didn't bother me because he is a public figure and I knew it was something he "did" to make himself look better. But I felt special because I thought he trusted just me with his "secret" and I was chosen because he didn't trust anyone else but ME and that he thought i was the only person "worth" risking his marriage for. Well once I discovered this information about the other women recently. I knew it was time I told his wife but I didn't want him to know it was me. this is his second wife he cheated all the time with many women on his first wife and eventually ran off left her with their daughter and married the one he is with now, they have been married 3 years. It is time he learned his lesson.
BUTAFLY Posted December 26, 2005 Posted December 26, 2005 I found out I was the other woman while he was engaged and wrote the then fiance a letter days before the wedding...I don't know if she got it or not because she ended up marrying him. He never mentioned anything to me about it. But I did it because if were my fiance/husband that was having an affair, I would want to know ...especially before I married him. I believe you did the right thing women to women she needs to know what she is dealing with.
BUTAFLY Posted December 26, 2005 Posted December 26, 2005 where are you from.....is this guys name Brian.? I swear your story is my story...except I thought he was single....and he also cheated on his first wife and know on his second too. He tells everyone that he loves his wife and regretes cheating on the first one. and will never cheat again...he talks about their outings ...he a big figure in the community he is a deacon of a large church here everyone loves him and dotes all over him...it makes me sick...he is lucky i didnt do what I orignally had planned. I was gonna wright a letter to the church and make copys of the letter and place it on every car in the church parking lot while he was preaching.
whichwayisup Posted December 26, 2005 Posted December 26, 2005 Also it was mixed in with revenge as well I mean who wouldn't wnat a little revenge after wasting over 2 years of your heart on someone who basically played you the whole time? I thought this this was the first time I felt love in my life and to find this out crushed me. I just wonder if he will think it was me or if he will just play it off like nothing is going on. But I have refused to contact him and It will be too soon if I ever see him again. You allowed yourself to fall deeply for a married man. I think you're obsessed with him. You shouldn't care anymore what he thinks, feels or what he is/isn't going to do!! Let him go, get over him, get some therapy to help you get over this. What you did really is horrible, the timing sucked and you did it for very selfish reasons. MOST people who get screwed over, grieve, get mad then get on with their lives. Best revenge is to LIVE LIFE happily! Seems you're not capable of doing that - All you want is to ruin his life, his family and hurt his wife and most of all HIS CHILDREN! I know you couldn't give two craps about them otherwise you wouldn't have sent a letter so close to Christmas. I hope one day you DO find happiness and rid of all your bitterness. Live your own life and FORGET him. It is in the past, so let it go.
Outcast Posted December 26, 2005 Posted December 26, 2005 It was a horrible thing to do at Christmas.
scarletletter Posted December 26, 2005 Posted December 26, 2005 It really was not the best time to do this, if there ever is a good time. I can understand your frustration and I do feel for you. When I first got involved with my MM, we had to be sure that each one of us were getting into this situation as mature adults who could and would always be able to handle disappointment when it occured. I guess I sort of conditioned myself to this because I could never write that sort of letter to the wife even if I found out there were others, mainly because his children are the most important thing in his world and it would hurt them eventually in some way, no matter what their age is...it will affect them in some way. I decided early on that discretion was an absolute must and that nothing could ever come before the children in our lives. I guess that is why I think it is a shame that the wife of your MM had to find out that way. My situation is different in many ways, i'm sure, but the bottom line is, you are going to affect his children's future and that is not fair to them. I'm sure you acted out of hurt and anger, but sometimes that's the only way we know how when our hearts have been broken.
Art_Critic Posted December 26, 2005 Posted December 26, 2005 but the bottom line is, you are going to affect his children's future and that is not fair to them. I agree that the timing is off.. It is Christmas.. But I disagree with the fact that you are saying that she is affecting the childrens life by telling the wife.. That is so far off base.. He and she started affecting the childrens lives the exact moment that they started the affair.. He bears the biggest responsibility for trashing the childrens lives not the OW..She bears some sure.. but they are his kids that he is SUPPOSED to be PROTECTING them not hurting them .
audrie Posted December 26, 2005 Posted December 26, 2005 I agree that the timing is off.. It is Christmas.. But I disagree with the fact that you are saying that she is affecting the childrens life by telling the wife.. That is so far off base.. He and she started affecting the childrens lives the exact moment that they started the affair.. He bears the biggest responsibility for trashing the childrens lives not the OW..She bears some sure.. but they are his kids that he is SUPPOSED to be PROTECTING them not hurting them . I agree. He bears the biggest responsibility of protecting his kids and he failed at the time he had an affair. I myself have been toying with the idea of letting the wife knows too. She will believe what she wants to believe but nothing beats concrete evidence:D But probably my best revenge is i will show him that I can live happily and successfully without him in the equation.
Outcast Posted December 26, 2005 Posted December 26, 2005 but they are his kids that he is SUPPOSED to be PROTECTING them not hurting them . Be that as it may, they will forever associate Christmas with the time their family blew apart and that is simply a rotten thing to do to anybody IMHO.
whichwayisup Posted December 26, 2005 Posted December 26, 2005 But probably my best revenge is i will show him that I can live happily and successfully without him in the equation. That is the right way to go. Get on with your life and LIVE life happily. Rodeogirl I hope for your own sake you follow audrie's path here.
Author Rodeogirl Posted December 26, 2005 Author Posted December 26, 2005 I am OVER him I told you guys I knew of this almost a full week before i sent the letter. I lost respect for him it is different from being angry or mad and then making up like nothing ever happend .I do not know about you guys but once i lose respect for a person there is no reason to continue on with a friendship/relationship/marriage...etc... I held him in a certain light and once not only as a lover/friend..but as a mentor In the business I am in. Someone else had to expose him to me and all the feelings i had faded. I am not worried about getting over him because I AM not even thinking of him on that level anymore. I do not think I can express that enough. And for you to assume I am obsessed with this person is way way way off base , I was once obsessed with wondering if he would contact me after a fight or disagreement but this is something totally different right now this is about him needing to be BUSTED. And my opinion on the children is this, he ruined their life the moment he decided to have all these affairs on his NEW wife. And secondly even if she gets the letter I doubt that she will leave him . If she does I still don't want a fugging thing to do with his grimey azz. Was the timing off?? nope i do not think so, the timing is never right for any bad news and like i stated before i doubt they will split over the letter, he is flawless at lying and she will take his words and believe it .
whichwayisup Posted December 26, 2005 Posted December 26, 2005 You aren't over it yet...Otherwise you would have not sent the letter, you wouldn't be still out for revenge, thinking what reaction will be had, or for his poor innocent kids. Was the timing off? You bet it was. It was all so YOU COULD FEEL BETTER about YOU!!!! Had nothing to do about anything else. You wanted to ruin things since you were (are) miserable and full of hurt. The affair may be over and what you two had together is over, but you're obsessed enough with him and to bring him down. Which means he still has ALOT of pull on you and what you do with your life. So, take control and LIVE your life without even thinking of him. Make that a New Years Resolution.
ww Posted December 26, 2005 Posted December 26, 2005 How stupid! And that makes you, what? A hero? Are you proud of what you did? :sick: :sick: :sick: You are immature, mean and childish IMO. You say you are going into new year clean. Clean of what ? You should be ashamed of yourself.
ww Posted December 26, 2005 Posted December 26, 2005 You are immature and selfish. How would you like if someone did it to you as wife , or to you as being a daughter? I feel sorry for you going through all you went through, but that is not a good excuse for the childish and selfish thing you did.
Art_Critic Posted December 27, 2005 Posted December 27, 2005 Give her a break.. immature and selfish are strong words for what she did.. The only thing wrong I see that she did was timing.. WW.. are you not an OW or have been ??.. being an OW is not the most mature unselfish thing a woman can be..
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