Major Friend problem. Please Help!

[StillFishin]

Ok I have been frinds forever with somebody. In fact I met him in pre-school. ME and him were very close until 5th grade when i had to move to NC. I lived there a few years and came down and visited every Christmas so we kept in contact. Well when i moved back I really didnt notice it but he became slightly irritable of me. He became one of those people that act mean but use it as a joke. It really didnt bother me then but now I dont know if he is "a jokingly mean" anymore. He takes me to school now and takes me home but I feel a very tense relationship with him. I cant ever tell if he is actually being mean or if he is joiking. In fact the only contact i make wiht him is going to school, a few classes, and going home. He never tells me what he is gonna do so we never hang out, outside of school. I cant remember the last time he called me (prolly about 7 years ago). He always hangs out with other people and tries to keep from telling me what him and his other buddies are going to do. I am almost positive he doesnt like to hang out with him. At school he always bums paper off me , and always tells me that "you will be walking home if you dont". This really angers me ,and he also like making physical contact on me like slapping me in the back of the head etc. I am almost to the point that when i get my own vehicle that i will stop talking to him period. I also have a few more things about him to say. He is also a smart @$$ sometimes. No matter what i have to say he always has some witty smart comment to make whatever I said seem stupid. Whenever he is telling a funny story involving me to some friends particullarly girls he , that involves me, he always leaves my name out of the story so that I get no credit or laughs about it. That may sound stupid but i find it really mean. Sometimes I also think that , that is part of his plan to keep me from getting any reputation with other people. Not to mention that he works at a FAST FOOD RESTARAUNT, and I work at Wal-Mart and he makes fun of me. He is one of those people that downtalks something you have if he doesnt which in that case is a good job. I really need some opinions and advice about this. Should I stay frineds with him or just wait till I get my vehicle and ditch him? Our relationship as friends is so bad that just typing this made me not like him even more. PLEASE HELP!!!!

[amerikajin]

Honestly, if he's doing everything you've said, he's just not much of a friend. You need to spend time with people who are going to be more positive about you, and you need to avoid those who can't. It's not easy, I know; there's a social hierarchy at school, and it sounds as though this guy is using you to vault his status up.

 

I was always kind of a 'middler'. I was considered cool at school by most people who knew me, but there were always a few who'd occasionally mess with me a bit because they wanted to impress their girlfriends or their football buddies, or whoever. I think most people have been the victim of it at one point or another, even if only in a small way. My story has a happy ending but for some people it's a living nightmare, with bullying and real harassment. At least in your case it doesn't seem to have reached that stage yet. But it could if you hang around him a lot. Ditch him.