DirtyOldMan? Posted December 24, 2005 Posted December 24, 2005 I am a 48 year old divorced male. I have only had two intimate relationships my entire life; one with my ex-wife, and the other with a woman who gave up on waiting for me to get married (after 1 1/2 years). She was 22 years younger than I. The fact is that having been divorced, I really do not want to get married again. At the same time I still have a sex drive, and now that I am alone, I have begun to consider paying for sex. Perhaps I have a sense that I am approaching an age where my interest and or ability to perform sex may be lagging, and I feel like I better enjoy it while I can. I find myself only attracted to women at least 15 years younger than me, and who have an attractiveness level that probably would not be interested in me. The fact that my income is very high attracts women of all ages with their motivation always a question in my mind. Even though I am nearly 50 I stay in excellent shape and exercise regularly. In a sense, I am repulsed by the thought of being a person who would pay for sex, but on the other hand, this approach avoids any problems involved in a relationship. Have other men my age or older gone through this phase, and if so, how did they handle it.
Tony Posted December 25, 2005 Senior Moderators Posted December 25, 2005 Paying for sex certainly gets around a lot of obstacles. However, in most municipalities it's against the law...so you have to be very discreet. And in all municipalities it carries the inherent risk of death if the object of your paid affection has Aids. STDs can be a bear as well, some are contagious even with a condom. I'd say your safest bet would be to find someone nice who would be a good companion but who is also just wanting a physical relationship with no other strings attached. The personal dating service ads are filled with those.
Neptune Posted December 25, 2005 Posted December 25, 2005 Have other men my age or older gone through this phase, and if so, how did they handle it. I`m sure that most men 40 plus years old, who either have been lifelong single, divorced or even married and thinking that life is passing them by have considered this option. Of course, being a responsible citizen, having children that gives one a sense of responsibility and many other factors probably keeps a lot of guys at bay. Not to mention that a lot of guys even in their fifties don`t have money to spare. I have reflected on that route over the years but always decided against it. Now, I am less inclined to even consider it. Even though I have to admit, the older you get, the more the transaction offers something that only money can buy. I mean a red hot 20 year old is way beyond my grasp at this point. So, I don`t know if you are ever over it entirely. The biggest downside risk is certainly STD`s but I don`t really think the experience would be great anyway. 1
JayKay Posted December 25, 2005 Posted December 25, 2005 Why not place an ad for 'younger woman' who desires a 'casual, no-strings relationship' with lots of travel, financial perks and goodies? Perhaps you can meet a hottie who just wants an older friend for sex and fun and a little financial assistance. Read the 'alternative' newspapers in larger cities; there are plenty of ads for women looking for temporary 'sugar daddies' while they're pursuing education.
NYCmitch25 Posted December 25, 2005 Posted December 25, 2005 Asian message.... ..... get the Happy Ending... LOL
Roo-bie2 Posted December 25, 2005 Posted December 25, 2005 Don't underestimate youreself. Treat a girl nice you might be surprised what you get in return. I am 32 my dh is 48, we have been married 8 years. Just use a condom. Don't be ashamed. Finding a good friend isn't always the easest or STD safe. Also, if you go up to message boards like yahoo groups you might find a local singles group. If you are looking just for sex lower your standards and find older woman that understand it is just for sex. Many younger woman haven't figured out you can have sex with out being in love and ENJOY the heck out of it.
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