KJo314 Posted December 23, 2005 Posted December 23, 2005 Hi Y'all My g/f broke up with me 3 weeks ago tomorrow. Anways she called me 2 days ago and I was in town... I aksed her if she wanted to go like get ice cream or coffee or something. At first she said it would be ok then she was like.... I don't really feel comfortable with it right now. I asked her why and she said that she was still emotionally upset and she didn't want to give me any hope of us getting back together anytime soon because she wasn't sure (she then started crying). I aksed her why she was crying and she was like...."This is hurting me a lot even though I did it i still think for me right now this is the right thing." I asked her if she was crying becasue she still loves me and she said yes. Well, we kept talkeing and she kept getting more upset. I told her not to cry and that I would be there for her. She asked me what I thought was going on with her and I said "You are a wreck right now... I have been there... you need toget your life back together and it is something that you can only do yourself. It doesn't mean that there isn't any hope for us. There is still hope for us right?" She answered with a "yes" So we talked a little bit mroe and it was obvious she wasn't calming down so I told her to call me back when she felt comfortable talking again. She said ok and laughed when I told her a joke and I told her bye. Was this a good move??? What does it mean. She has NEVER NEVER been anything less than completely honest with me since I have known her. I sent her a handmade Christmas card because she is leaving for a week on a cruise. She leaves tomorrow. Should I call her and wish her a merry christmas or not?? Is there still a chance with us, and what can I do to improve my odds if anything? If I keep maintaining contact with her will she still continue to love me... or will she do it even if I don't call her. Let me say that I will do anything for this woman. You only meet a woman once that you know you truely havea connection with. I know this woman. you might say that there are "more fish in the sea" but I don't want another fish. I connect with her and she with me on so many levels. I honestly feel she is just a wreck right now and needs to sort out her life.
riobikini Posted December 24, 2005 Posted December 24, 2005 Your intuition may be right. You did not give info as to what the problems were that preceded the breakup, but your post made me believe that the two of you really still care for each other. (Smile) See what happens after the cruise. In the meantime, TRY to get a few joyful moments (at least) out of the holidays with, perhaps, family and friends while she is away. Take care. -Rio
KJO314 Posted December 24, 2005 Posted December 24, 2005 There really were no problems... She cited 3 things when she broke up with me but then turned around on all 3 of them. 1. Respect of space - I couldn't give her the space she needed. 2. Emotional Intimacy - She discovered she wanted this only 3 days before she broke it off with me. I had no time to research it. From that first e-mail she has not mentioned it agian. 3. Fundamental Differences - When I e-mailed her asking for these she couldn't give me a clear cut answer as to what they were. But she gave me a textbook definition of what it meant. Then the phone call i got... saying she still loves me and that there is a hope.. I loveher and don't want to lose her but these games ahhhhhhh!!!!
kjo314 Posted December 24, 2005 Posted December 24, 2005 The reasons she broke up with me. All of these she has contradicted as I will explain. 1. Personality Differences - She felt she wasn't getting out of the realtionship what she thought she wanted... The 2 she cited were emiotional intimacy and respect of boundries. Both of which she didn't tell me she wanted until like 2 days before we broke up. 2. Fundamental Differences - When I asked her what she meant by this... She said she couldn't give me a clear cut answer about what they were. She gave me a text book answer (literally) of the definition of this and said that people are born with a temperment. She said that she felt her view of reality wasn't matching up with mine. Both of these were on an e-mail. When she called me it had nothing to do about any of this. The call kinda gave me hope but am I shooting in the dark here. I sure hope not. I love her. She told me in the e-mails she still "loves me to death" and she just needs to be alone and have thigns simple right now. What does all this mean? Why did I lose my princess?
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