TALK vs. TYPE

[xLOPES]

i have a huge problem.. talking to girls face to face.. but online, using aim, i can talk to them for hours..Same with notes, i can write a ton in notes, but i cant talk to a girl face to face. Unless i see this girl like twice a day, but i still want to talk to them, its not gonna happen.

 

wtf should i do to fix this problem?

[whichwayisup]

Practice infront of the mirror. Seriously!! Look yourself IN the eyes, and get comfortable with yourself. I'm sure you have ALOT to say to this girl, just that you're too nervous to talk face to face. The thing about online is, it's easier to deal with, you don't have see the other person, hear their voice.

 

You just need some self confidence and you'll be fine!

 

I know it sounds silly but try the mirror thing and see how it goes.

[clandestinidad]

Maybe you could get out of your comfort zone...I mean, quit talking to people online for a while. That way, you will re-train yourself to actually have a conversation with a real person in real life. When you dont have any other way to associate with females, you will HAVE to talk face to face.

 

Just dont give yourself other options for a while, and practice that mirror thing. Get comfortable with yourself b/c you obviously are thoughtful, intelligent, and have a lot to say.

 

just what i think

[Neptune]

It is interesting that several times I have read people`s accounts of meeting a noted author. The person was astounded to find that someone who could write so eloquently could be so boring in person.

 

Each of us has different talents. Some people who have great personalities can`t write doodly squat. But I suspect your only way out of your problem is to practise, practise, practise.

 

It would be good for you to look at your interactions with women as practise and try to imagine you incorporating some of your talent for writing into conversation. Try to have a more objective approach to conversation.